Dancing Tips

IPlayUkulele · 2013-05-28T15:05:54+00:00

We talk about that last point a lot in swing dancing (the only dance I can actually do). The only not-good swing dancing is when you and your partner aren't smiling. Having fun really make all the difference, so be careful to get out of your head with whatever you're doing.

Here's another thought on any kind of ballroom dancing. The great thing about them is that the guy leads. All the girl has to do is follow, which makes it really easy for her to learn the basics. I think it's a little harder to learn the basic to salsa than it is for swing, but once you have those basic steps, you can lead her through a bunch of basic moves. It gives you some pretty cool value, easy kino and I think it's a lot of fun.

Would I do that in a club? Well, probably not. However, it makes a nice date, or it's a way to meet people.

handzar111 · 2013-05-28T17:39:41+00:00

Nice post, especially the having fun and enjoying it part. Dancing is my go-to to meet girls, but that is never my intention when I am out dancing. I usually start out dancing by myself (works for house / techno, general club music) and usually have girls come up to me. The having fun part in dancing goes only so far tho IMO. Don't go crazy and act like a spaz out on the dance floor in sake of having fun. Learn some basic base steps and use those to keep rhythm and go from there.

Ditto on dancing on the side of women.

Some other quick taughts:

1)When dancing with a girl, you need to imitate or match your moves similar to hers. That is why the "teach / copy my move" thing is great. You need to be in synch in terms of intensity and movement.

2) KINO is obviously built-in majority of the time, but even if dancing with a girl without touching it is easily brought in. Usually when I want to say something to the girl I lightly pull the girl towards me with a hand on her lower back and speak closely into her ear (it is loud in clubs so it is not creepy to do this)

3) Dancing works especially great if you are at a club where alot of people are not dancing or is not a hotspot for great / pro dancers. It shows tremendous confidence to start dancing when most people are just standing around and head booping.

4) White sneakers seem to yield more attention in dark clubs, if you are doing footwork moves.

5) Isolate to the bar, for a glass of water if it is hot in the club, cig break, different club, late night food.

6) Do most of your movement and moves with feet and arms, leave most of the hip movement to girls.

7) Do not half ass your moves and try to hide your dancing, it shows clearly you do not have confidence in your ability and are uncomfortable. That is why knowing a couple of base moves is key, which you can do with confidence and purpose.

2013-05-28T15:56:37+00:00

As a southerner, you're two-stepping video made me very confused

clownsonfire · 2013-05-28T15:13:41+00:00

Somehow this makes me feel as if the time I'm spending learning to ballroom dance is wasted.

recyclablebantha · 2013-05-28T20:14:43+00:00

This was a f--king awesome post. I'm honestly going to bookmark it so I can link people to it when this sort of subject inevitably comes up again.

To supplement this, I'll just add two things:

1 A basic tip: Taking dance classes is a great way to build your confidence in this area. I took some hip-hop classes while attending university and years later that experience still helps me.

2 A more intermediate/advanced tip: After building some sort of dance foundation (or investing in building that foundation?) I have found that it's fun to watch popular dance videos or videos of someone's choreography to a song, and pick apart some of the moves...... Sometimes it's difficult to completely absorb everything that's seen but it's not too difficult to steal portions of the choreography and add things to your vocabulary.

Some examples of the kind of videos I like to pick apart, are usually songs that are on the slower, groovier side of things, because the choreography will usually include some slower movements that are easier to parse out. Also, different choreographers will have a different take on the same song, which can be interesting.

Searching out choreography to a particular song you like can be interesting. For example, I found three examples of choreography done to "Falsetto" by The-Dream: 1 (choreography with separate parts for girls and guys), 2 (keep your eye on the 2nd guy from the right), and 3........
Searching by choreographer can be another approach, once you've found one you like. Example: I'm fond of a lot of Kyle Hanagami's earlier stuff, though this shit is definitely difficult to pick up from his short clips because the videos only show the exhibition by the instructors BEFORE the class or from the students AFTER they've already taken the class. None of that instruction is shown, unfortunately. My First Love, Locked out of Heaven (seriously, watch it until the chorus hits), Turnt up
Some popular dance videos have choreography that may have portions that you can pick up. "Like I Love You", or "U Don't Have To Call" are some older videos that fit this category for me back in the day. YMMV.

2013-05-29T23:21:41+00:00

I look like a retard on the dance floor. still dont care. yay party!

jros14 · 2013-05-28T14:23:22+00:00

you forgot da shuffle son

Brownsugarz · 2013-05-28T15:33:09+00:00

Awesome post man, I'm gonna start learning these asap. I just got back from Mexico and had an amazing time with this HB8 Ukrainian girl. We had a ton of fun at the resort. But, my last day with her she said the next time she sees me she expects some new moves! So you've made my day right now man. Just wanted to add one dance... Let me tell you, this song "Ai Se Eu Te Pego - Michal Telo" is super popular. There's even a dance to go along with it to. There are many versions but this one is the closest to the one I learned in Mexico: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOnjXeeNwsE&feature=youtube_gdata_player

I didn't even realize how popular this song is here in North America. I bet it's the same in Europe too. It's an easy dance to learn. Beware, the song is pretty damn catchy.

Edit: found another good and accurate dance tutorial. I prefer this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPaJF6r6OXw&feature=youtube_gdata_player

frogma · 2013-05-28T17:14:14+00:00

You gotta learn the cripwalk. I can only do a few moves myself, and I generally hate dancing, but the cripwalk is more like an actual exercise, and it looks really cool when you can do a full set. Then at the end you get to "dust off" your shoes, which usually leads to cheering from the crowd. And it's much more fitting in a club, where most people are just grinding on each other. I don't have the patience to learn it, but I'd assume you probably do. Salsa can make you look cool, but in the average club, it just seems out-of-place, and I've yet to see anyone do it.

antons83 · 2013-05-28T18:50:29+00:00

I don't go to random clubs. I go to one particular club cause they play awesome hiphop. I know how to dance to hiphop. Two step gets the girls to smile at you. The DOUGIE however, makes girls shove other people aside, and full out stare! Definetly helps, but don't make it your only weapon in your arsenal.

MarchinV · 2013-05-28T20:49:44+00:00

I used to breakdance when I was a kid, I´ve always been self concious about my dancing ever since I was like 14 years old. Seeing this two-step stuff makes me a lot more confident in the remainder of my skills. Thank you.

Rayofpain · 2013-05-28T22:29:25+00:00

thanks tweet boogie

caught_undertow · 2013-05-29T00:15:37+00:00

The timing of this post is awesome. I've got a wedding to go to and about a month of practice to prepare to get out on the dance floor (something new to me).

Thanks man, I'll make good use of it

theginger3469 · 2013-05-28T17:01:25+00:00

Dont forget The Wobble! If you can really work it get in a group of girls and just work the hell out of it.

penisweed · 2013-05-28T16:54:12+00:00

all u gotta do is mime rap in da club

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1 A basic tip: Taking dance classes is a great way to build your confidence in this area. I took some hip-hop classes while attending university and years later that experience still helps me.