You can't manufacture chemistry or the spark. It's either there or it's not. Sure you can have a good job, haircut and dress well, but at the end of the day she either likes hanging out with you or she doesn't. The spark is either there or it's not. You guys either click or you don't.

If it is there, it's your job as a man to drive it in a romantic direction. If you treat her like a platonic buddy on future dates, you're going to be a platonic buddy. If you make moves and drive it in a romantic direction, the odds of having sex / a relationship are significantly higher.

I get the impression most women are oblivious to the skillset part that comes to dating. For them it's either meant to be or it isn't much how the spark is.

I also think a lot of people on this subreddit think they can manufacture a spark by doing the right things on a first date, but that isn't true either since women are not a video game where you can enter some cheat code.

At the end of the day, it's either there or it's not, and if it is, you better be driving that shit in a romantic direction or that window of time simply passes.