Dealing with shitty friends

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-07T01:08:17+00:00

I get anything from snickers to getting straight-up made fun of.

ending up telling jokes about how shitty I was afterwards.

I would stop spending time with those people if I'm looking to meet people socially. being awesome doesn't excuse this bullshit.

You can hang out with them playing video games or whatever alone, but I would rather go out solo than deal with that shit from supposed friends.

2013-08-07T03:18:55+00:00

Shitty friends is an oxymoron.

That should answer you're post, OP. Best of luck.

Py72o · 2013-08-07T08:09:45+00:00

You just need a couple of closes to set them in their place. Tell them at least your trying instead of sitting back like a bitch.

changeh · 2013-08-07T00:06:38+00:00

I have the same issue. I tried to introduce them to pick up and they call bullshit.

You need to have the mindset of that they're not gonna get anywhere in their sex life if they lurk in the corner staring at all the hot chicks.

Don't let them stop you from gaming during your nights out. Maybe you should mix in some day game, build your social circle.

AFCAdam always talks about the importance of pre-selection. During day, approach as many girls as you can. Get to know them, go on a date. Get them feeling crazy about you. Then do the same for a few others and take them out with you on a night out and reap the rewards.

slcjosh · 2013-08-07T15:55:25+00:00

i have some afc friends that are very critical of my approaches too. Ill open hb10s and carry a conversation and kino with them for anywhere from 5-30 minutes, whatever. If it results in anything but a k close or f close or # close they are always critical. Ill be like "dudes that was fun, you should have come over and chatted they were nice girls, i did some cold reads and told a girl about her rings or whatever", they always say the same shit "oh wow, look how far THAT got you" and i just respond, and you sitting on your ass flirting with your beer got you where, motherfucker?" and ill just go open another set, but in honestly i make sure to respond them LOUDLY. friendly, but loudly. Its sort of a dick move, im basically amoging the shit out of my friends for being to big of pussies to go talk to someone, but it does a few things for me

It reminds me that they are just jealous that I am out having a great time and have no issue opening and talking to really beautiful women (my ex was a solid hb 9.5, all my exes have been super hot, they never have the balls to talk to them and i know it makes them mad, they are AFC's)

It puts a little pressure on them to maybe stop being such a fucking dope and get off their ass and meet a girl.

It lets people around me know im the alpha in that group, no matter how lame they may be at that moment, i have higher value then anyone critiquing me

Often times a cute girl will notice, look over, try to see what the commotion is all about, and i can use it as another opener. Ill walk right up to her and just use a situation opener . When i see she is taking notice of my playfully but loudly razzing my afc friends, ill walk right up to her, throw my arm around her playfully and be like what do you think, these guys are making fun of me cuz i talked to those two girls over there, and i didnt get numbers or anything". Ill then just look into her eyes until she responds and tells me what she thinks. Most the time the girls is really receptive to the attention, youre opener is already taken care of, and you can continue on from there.

By best piece of advice for this is just stay positive man, but meet their resistance with an equal amount of positive shit talking to them, if that makes sense. if they are snickering at you, or making fun of you, dont lose your cool, but make sure to mention that why your boys sit around and circle jerk each other off, youre out there meeting women. maybe if they had some balls they could do it too.

arxch126 · 2013-08-07T04:05:35+00:00

As a man who embraces personal development, I can tell you convincing old friends you've changed is tough. Its also tough to break out of an identity they're familiar with. I really don't have the perfect answer for you, but I will say a few things.

Making new friends would be my first suggestion, obviously easier said than done though. Richard La Ruina has an amazing video about meeting new people in new cities, which you can apply to your own city if you haven't really taken advantage of that. Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnhwGzcEALI. Say good things to people. Make them feel good about themselves with out seeming desperate. that's what I do. I laugh and make decisions to let them know I'm capable of being independent; and finally, give value. There are a ton of videos on Youtube if you don't know what that means.
You can keep your old friends, just don't mention that you're picking women up when you go out with them. Let them sit in the corner and do whatever AFC's do. At the very least, you've got a base which may help you with social proof later on. Go on solo adventures, go as far away from them as possible, and just talk to women. You're not doing it to impress anyone, you're doing it to build up social momentum; to reach the indifference threshold. Here's a video done by Alex of RSD talking about the present, and being in the moment, great stuff: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Vedc7AIl7E

Hope this helps... If anyone wants to add anything to this, please do, I'm still new to the community and still learning myself.

TallVikingThrowaway · 2013-08-07T07:15:25+00:00

This reminds me of the story (here on seddit, i cant find it because im on my phone) of this one guy who went to the gym and there was this HB10 that no one dared to approach. He did and was shot down. So people give him shit for failing and he calls this one dude out saying that atleast he had the balls to try. Jaws were dropped

kingcal · 2013-08-07T04:21:10+00:00

Don't go out to pick up women in their company. It's that simple.

Willem20 · 2013-08-07T08:27:42+00:00

But wait.. Do you share intimacies? Do you share same interests? Do you call em your fucking friends because they are your friends?

People say that teaching a subject is mastering that subject.

Go fucking do it.

kingshen · 2013-08-07T20:21:49+00:00

make fun of them for not having the balls to talk to girls themselves. i think they will shut up pretty fast

IceCream_Social · 2013-08-07T20:50:05+00:00

If you're making this shift in your attitude and mindset you will find new friends soon. I used to have a similar situation where I was living with a group of guys who were all self-centered, depressed, or just general assholes. Once I started shifting the direction my life was in I started meeting people who emulated the qualities I was pursuing. You'll meet new people who will have similar values as you soon, its all a part of the journey.

Mini_robot · 2013-08-09T01:21:34+00:00

Man. I have so many friends like this that I had to find new friends to go out with. Now I have a small group that are on the same page and instead of making fun if each other for rejections we encourage each other to take turns on the next set. It helps out a lot

Title	Dealing with shitty friends
Author	El_Pimpo
Upvotes	9
Comments	15
Date	August 6, 2013 11:54 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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