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[–]Intelligent_Badger96 25 points26 points27 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You're overreacting bro. You've gotta let women breath and come to you sometimes. You've initiated most of the conversations and meetings. Kinda pressuring her and coming off as needy. A simple "Just reach out when you're free to get together. I've gotta run. Talk to you later." Works fine. Send it and forget it.
[+]Shwaziland1 points 3 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]omega05 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh yeah I’m very aware that I tripled texted her which is a no-no. On the flip side, I’ve had women agree to a second/third date, suddenly stop texting, and never contact me again when I’d try to play it cool and not double text. A delicate balance lol.
I’ll reply to her but I won’t initiate scheduling the next meetup. See if she takes initiative. Cheers
[–]Shwaziland0 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yeah lol I’m texting someone else right now so if this ends up being a dead end I won’t be SOL
[–]Robofrogg1 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
‘Playing it cool’ isn’t some sort of secret strategy to prevent women from losing interest. It’s just better than being clingy and needy because they’re the only thing you’ve got going in your life. Some, hell- many women will lose interest no matter what you do. That’s just how it goes.
However, double and triple texting is a great way to talk a woman out of liking you….so don’t do it.
[–]Intelligent_Badger96 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's not that it's a no no but you're just showing her that you like her more than she likes you or you're more into her than she is you. I usually don't text so much but rather do a phone call so they get a sense of my personality. It makes them more comfortable for the next date. Texting can get boring and conversations die off or get dry. Then you get in this weird keeping the conversation going one worded responses. A balance with texting..If she's at work I wouldn't try to text. Feed off of her response energy. If she's texting quickly then text withing a couple of minutes..if she's taking a long time to respond then she's probably busy and just text her later. Some responses don't need a reply. I usually don't respond to low energy text. I just read it and to about my day lol.
[–]fazzavich 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is on point.
[–]Dizzy_Imagination_74 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She is flaking and fading out let her go not a goid start for something dont fall for it , i did same mistake and end up getting butt hurt ao let her go if she comes back hook up n leave
[–]Neo-Rio 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously you're not her top priority.
I would see that as her subtly sending you a message of what you should be doing with your own life.
[–]incognito3107 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should mirror her engagement. Apparently her emotions dropped, but it's not the end of the case. Being persistent will most likely turn her off. She knows that she played you two times. You can show that you are not easily offended, but she needs to make it up to you. You can give her some bits of attention if you want, but don't play for the next reschedule.
[–]partyn3xtd00r6 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s over
[–]sinhaanip 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You conveyed too much of desperation and neediness for that date !! So don’t overreact. Take a step back. Let it cool off. And gradually calibrate towards the date. It needs to be smooth. Not forced.
Care to share the text you used to ask her out ?
[–]fazzavich 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As stated previously the triple text had almost all but certainly killed this. Look for more cooperative women going forward as she's obviously a flaker like most of them. Once it's gets to the rescheduling phase, it's almost a black hole and not retrievable at that point.
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[–]Shwaziland 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We were texting every day for 4 days between the first and second date. The drop in activity happened last Tuesday when I asked if she’d be traveling for work. Sorry for unclarity
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[–]Robofrogg1 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is creepy. Don’t do this.
[–]Old_Record_6411 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she's busy; maybe with work or with another person that checks off most of her boxes. Either way you can't get mad. You two aren't dating. Both of you are free to explore options. Find someone that isn't going to ignore you is my ultimate recommendation.
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