Not feeling confident

EducationalMeeting95 · 2022-10-09T05:30:44+00:00

You know most of the things you're facing are very normal for most of they guys.

We face it in different time of our lives.

So it's okay to feel nervous while escalating or flirting.

It's just like a muscle or skill.

The more you do it the better you get at it.

Thisrandomweirdo · 2022-10-09T05:13:57+00:00

Its not a big deal, you're still young and you have plenty of time. I'd say try to find someone to date first. Find someone you match well with and doing it wont be so scary or difficult anymore because you'll be with someone you trust.

MrManwithNoName2021 · 2022-10-09T05:02:44+00:00

Watch the movie 40 Year Old Virgin with Steve Carroll. Super funny, but also will help you.

zertsetzung · 2022-10-09T06:19:35+00:00

Ok and I understand that. But realize that sex is sex. There is no rule in the book that says that you have to reveal how or where you got it from or if you paid for it or not. To anyone.

Think about it.

"I could really use a push in the right direction"

Touch them. Touch a girl when you speak to her. Touch their hips. Touch the small of their back. Touch their hair. Touch their hands. Heck if you are adventurous, touch their stomach.

What have you got to lose? Nothing. Because you are gaining nothing by what you are doing so far. So up the ante. Pushe the envelope. Cross the line, so that you know where it is.

Touch women you like when you talk to them. Just remember, dont do it from 5 feet away. Because thats just fvcking weird. Do it from 2 or 3 feet away.

If you like a girl, and you think she likes you? Get out of your comfort zone and into her personal space and touch her in the ways I just described while you are talking to her.

zapadz · 2022-10-09T07:29:28+00:00

Here are some videos on confidence and healing shame

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w27nenP7fsQ&list=PLeztx1--I_i-Uup3kAW7okkR2uGVkJ7pv&index=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9K-HA9Cb40

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVLV8y_9v84

Here are some videos on meeting women and making things happen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-jvM3NSs6Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=050mAG7O4LY&list=PL76nuCstxs7jpcbJ3B5Cbrs7-4gTwjBWF&index=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzKZeaCa9lc

Impossible_Yellow751 · 2022-10-09T07:41:09+00:00

I don’t think you should feel ashamed at all I Feel the same way at time I’m a 31 year old virgin female I don’t have many experience with Men and when I did it was only to be used and treated badly but the thing I found was when I stopped giving a flying Fuck about what any one thinks I just stopped Trying and just became my self comfortable self often times I’m not good at flirting abs when I use to try hard to flirt the more akward It got because I tried to be in authentic to my own personality abs when I I worked on who I am outside of my looks I got a better idea of who I want to be what helped me is i the ok a public speaking class in colleges and my theater friends use to Make me go to imprompt acting classes where we had to act on the fly and that helped me a lot and then I find people watching glances at men who are confident at flirting they aren’t always the perfect man they are the men who make a lady laugh or they are good at certain things like math or science or fixing cars but they knew how to talk to Everyone my dad gave me this advice he said you first have to conquer your fear of people in general like social anxiety because you want to be able to to talk and make friends even if it’s not romantic because once you get good at reading people and signals he said you will be able to see if someone likes you . Don’t get down on your self for me I use to get down on myself because I’m a weird and goofy autistic woman I am into art and science and music and creativity however I often don’t know how to translate the fact that I’m quite smart and talented in many different areas in my life and I use to Think I was odd because i had interest in many different things that most lady aren’t into my hobbies. But I started working on my own intrest and hobbies and I Met my boyfriend through my hobbies I didn’t think I was capable of being in a relationship with anyone because growing up I never had someone have a crush on me growing up no one ever took me on dates or asked me out or spent time with me in a romantic way just to get to know me i never had anyone who ever thought I was special or anything it made me feel like there was a problem with me as a women I must be ugly and fat or weird . And when I talked to my now fiancé I thought he was playing a trick on me like a prank or something I was suspicious of his Intentions i kept analyzing every thing he did that I felt was wrong . If he didn’t call me or text me I thought he was playing me as a fool and talking to other women behind my back . When he didn’t want to be official girlfriend with me I told myself he has a girlfriend he’s using me as a side chick and I was led to believe he had sex with another woman who is a model and it destroyed my confidence because I didn’t really believe that he was really in love with me . I Thought why on earth would this handsome man want me to be his girlfriend I’m not beautiful or smart I don’t make much money I have two cents in my account why would he ever want me . But I had to realize a lot of things had to Do with My inability to accept my self was the reason why my Romantic relationship sucked if I don’t love me how Can I get someone else to think I’m Great enough to be in a relationship with me. Once I accept my self It got easier to talk to men like my now boyfriend

Professional_Ad_78 · 2022-10-09T09:11:10+00:00

Download tinder. Swipe right on less attractive women.

You’ll get messages from some - respond with funny gifs, and ask for their number, and text flirt with her for 2-3 days.

Tell her you should meet up in person. Take the lead, pick a cool place, and schedule the time.

When on first date, make eye contact, ask questions, share funny stories, and more questions.

Go on a second date and hug her. Go in a third date and makeout with her. Go on more dates. Take care of all logistics- do you have a nice place with a bedroom that you can have complete privacy? Clean it, stock it with good food, water, alcohol, music, condoms. Get her comfortable with your touch by simple hugging. Escalate into bed, and with her consent, get to a point where you both can get naked and smiling, and sex will happen!

Be ready to enjoy it! Just stay present, remember to breath, kiss her playfully, calibrate to her body language. Don’t put pressure on yourself to perform, it’s OK if it’s not the best on the first time.

You do not need to confess that you lack experience. That’s not a good topic to discuss. Just say something like “it’s been awhile since I’ve been with a women, are you OK if we go slow?”…or, “it can take me some time to warm up to someone physically - sorry if I do anything awkward!” Just try to check in once I awhile to make sure she is comfortable with you.

Women love sex too. Help her to enjoy herself!

And remember - she doesn’t have to be “pretty” or “perfect”. put some effort in, and she’ll taking your pants off before you know it!

ice_jj · 2022-10-09T09:48:59+00:00

I was a 21 year old virgin and I went to a big university with slutty college girls so it was much easier to get laid. Location matters! But I will say this. Confidence is like the waves, it comes and it goes. But self esteem is forever, it is the base of confidence. You can’t be truly confident if you have low self esteem, girls will smell that a mile away. But improve your self esteem and the rest will follow. Even complaining about not getting laid is a issue. It should happen naturally. Realistically it shouldn’t bother you that you aren’t getting laid. It’s not a big enough issue to matter. It’s like breathing, you do it because you have to.

Title	Not feeling confident
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Date	October 9, 2022 4:54 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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