Blind Spots [recovered]

oyrishluck · 2022-10-01T03:08:02+00:00

Sounds off. Ever considered spending a couple weeks travelling to use the same approach in another area, just to gauge the difference/lack of? Could be insightful if you become truly stuck where you're at. You sound like a good dude, I hope you figure it out soon.

Woujo · 2022-10-01T05:38:32+00:00

You are probably not spending enough time talking to the girls. You have to build a real emotional connection.

g3wb3r · 2022-10-02T13:46:37+00:00

Cold approaching in the day will always have the lowest conversion rate to sex because you are talking to girls that are not showing any indication that they are open to meeting anyone. Learn to read body language and you will notice a difference between girls who are open for something and girls who are not. Use eye contact and her response to you saying "hi" for further information. Do not push on cold responses. You need to cut the fat out of your approaching and become more efficient by reading girls better.

Cold approaching in bars and clubs will always work better because if the girl is out that usually means shes down for something as long as shes not with a group of girls who will judge her.

Also, the mindset of wanting to meet someone special and have a connection is very feminine. The girls you really like will feel this and be turned off. You have to change your mindset or the girl will wonder why the hell you want a relationship so badly? Is your life really that shit? Why is she so special? You don't need a girl to make you happy man that is social conditioning and a complete lie. It's actually the opposite.

Focus on getting sex quickly by being very direct and sexually forward and if a girl proves her worthiness to you over time then you can consider making her something more.

Forget about societal norms and social acceptance that stuff is for beta males.

zapadz · 2022-10-01T01:18:00+00:00

Here are some videos on reducing flaking. Remember to lead with attraction not comfort.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EogjdB3msWA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UY7PE_qFdY0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fv6DZxN0Ai4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwnZP1TPJic

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-01T01:28:21+00:00

wow. there's quite a lot in this. firstly, i bet there is about a few tens of thousands of men who are reading this that would crawl a mile of broken glass to be laid twice in 150 approaches. i believe you're a good looking guy. interesting you're not making any genuine connections though. why do you think that is?

ps, if i were looking for an attractive, intelligent, and kind woman i'd try a university gym and not just random women on the street.

mabden · 2022-10-01T02:32:24+00:00

Maybe I am misreading, your complaint is not getting laid (attempts vs results) but you want a long term relationship. Which is it?

Each have different approaches/strategies to yield success. IOWs, using one approach to achieve a different outcome leads to the frustration you are experiencing.

Mr_Throwaway2834 · 2022-10-01T17:23:05+00:00

Read Mode One

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-10-02T17:10:09+00:00

Twice out of 150 sounds great to me. Anyway, we can't tell you nuanced problems in your approach without ever seeing you.

Go out with a wing and ask them. Record yourself on your phone with the voice recorder app during approaches, and listen to it later. Ask others to listen to it and give feedback.

You can even have others video you if you're willing to go that far. I've done it a few times having a buddy film, then I record with my phone in pocket, and edit the sound and video together later.

dump_fool · 2022-10-01T02:42:07+00:00

150 approaches and 2 "lays" is ... very ... time wasting imo.

You probably have to optimize some things - the girls you approach. Cold approaching has very low success rate.

I don't know what, but you're doing something wrong.

Royal_Hitman · 2022-10-01T19:30:02+00:00

Where do you approach girls btw? 150 in a year seems very high

Royal_Hitman · 2022-10-01T19:29:34+00:00

Where do you approach girls btw? 150 in a year seems too high

Title	Blind Spots [recovered]
Author	psychicblasterr [recovered]
Upvotes	48
Comments	35
Date	October 1, 2022 1:13 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/xsi5cd/blind_spots/
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