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[–]appmanga 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Everyone's journey is different and we're all fucked up.
No, we're not. Some people use the fact they're "fucked up" as a mitigation for not trying, or for the negative results they get. If I had a dollar for the amount of times someone's written "and I have anxiety". Being nervous isn't "anxiety", which is a debilitating psychological disorder; being nervous is being normal.
Some people have issues with seduction because they think it's too hard or it's some kind of unfair trickery. It's as much unfair trickery as is a woman wearing makeup. She's putting her best self forward by using items at her disposal. You shouldn't feel you're doing something wrong by doing the same.
I don't care for push/pull and negging types of techniques because if you use these tactics long enough you eventually become that kind of person. What every guy needs to understand as a first principle is there are millions of women who are looking for a guy to be with. Women are not the enemy and they're not on Earth to make your existence miserable. There are women you've seen during your normal day who are at home tonight wondering why they can't find a guy. Once you realize those things, and once you understand many of the same actions used in seduction are tactics that are used in businesses and by leaders of all kinds you'll understand these aren't tricks.
You don't have to be an asshole or "bad boy" to get women. You're better off being as much yourself as possible because it's very difficult to keep up a front for an extended period of time without it seeping into to who you wind up being. Fear can be overcome. Nervousness is normal. "No" doesn't kill, and neither does embarrassment. The worst thing that happens in approaching is "no", and then you walk away still breathing.
Once you grasp those few things above you're should have already gained some confidence.
[–]DropKickBabies 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Social media makes it seems like all women hate men with how acceptable it is to hate men, Twitter, tiktok hell even reddit. Stuff like why do men do this or all men are pigs and just general negativity toward all men it's honestly depressing and exhausting.
[–]appmanga 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it's honestly depressing and exhausting.
Man, the fragility.
"Depressing and exhausting" is applying to dozens of jobs and not getting a response when you have bills to pay. The shit people say is the shit people say. Social media isn't reality and you shouldn't take it as such.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Completely 100% agree! I feel into the pua trap many years ago, not as bad as wearing a top hat and high heels to the club, but I was that guy that had to angle every interaction with a woman to try and get something out of her. One day I realized that it had been literal years since I went out just to enjoy myself and have fun talking to people and not trying to hit on women to get their number or try to get them in bed. I couldn't even remember the last time I was actually genuinely interested in getting to know the person in front of me and not trying to figure out how to escalate, kiss, or get her to go home with me.
Once I changed all of this and started socializing like a normal guy, women were almost too easy.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Same. People on here really need to hear this part.
[–]BensonInFL2 points 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I couldn't even remember the last time I was actually genuinely interested in getting to know the person in front of me and not trying to figure out how to escalate, kiss, or get her to go home with me. Once I changed all of this and started socializing like a normal guy, women were almost too easy.
I couldn't even remember the last time I was actually genuinely interested in getting to know the person in front of me and not trying to figure out how to escalate, kiss, or get her to go home with me.
| Same. People on here really need to hear this part.
I think this is the end result of game and getting good at pickup. Once you have scored with enough girls and see the world through abundance, and have a few on the go.. of course it feels easy to be non-caring and relaxed.
But do you really think if you went back in time to where picking up girls were a mystery and you were frustrated with not getting the results you wanted, that things could be so genuine?
-B
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It really is all in your head my boy. I was insecure even when I had some success with women because I still felt like a loser.
Also I think it's pretty funny you sign your reddit comments.
- R
[–]curisax1 points 3 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
so drop the techniques/game and just be normal and chat basically? (and if she's not ito you accept it's out of your control kind of thing? game can't really help?)
[–]CocoBabeNYC 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. You have to understand that the techniques and "game" comes from a place of "I'm down here, she's up there, I have to find a way to get her attention and impress her". Basically the old trope of putting her on a pedestal and kissing her ass just in a different way.
I use talking to women and engaging with them as a way to test out if I will be interested in going to bed with them not as a way to get them in bed.
[–]curisax1 points 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
but isn't that kind of denying game and seduction?
[–]CocoBabeNYC 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not really. You still need to be in control of the interaction, set the stage, take responsibility for everything. A woman needs to feel secure and safe with you, that you are able to take care of business.
[–]Justh3r3tol3arn 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was a terrible post lmao. Not sure what your intention was. But immediately you said “just be yourself” it was a wrap.
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[–]Kundalini-Electric 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Seduction isn’t complicated. It’s PUAs who made a simple interaction between a Man and a Woman over-complicated. Women aren’t complicated either, it’s just that your stuck in your head or your not reading her body language.
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If human interaction seems easy to you, it's because you're already good at it. The rookies here are not. They can't just "read body language". Most of them can't even consistently interpret words.
In order to get to a place of social competence, they will have to face their deepest fears and put their fragile sense of self on the line countless times.
They are all perfectly capable of climbing that mountain and they all hold the keys to their own success, but that doesn't make it easy. For most of them, it will be the hardest thing they've ever done in life.
[–]Live-Ad-6309 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's stupid to assume everyone who struggles is just "in their head" and is actually just Casanova being repressed by their insecurity.
Humans aren't born with an inate knowledge of social rules. We are supposed to learn them as infants the same way we learn languages. Some people don't learn them as well as others for whatever reason. And once you're an adult, that ability to learn the way infants do, is gone. So you have to learn all the thousands upon thousands of rules consciously.
[–]Kundalini-Electric 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wasn’t trying to sound insensitive. I get there are autistic and extremely shy people on this sub. I was just saying that PUA’s have over-complicated a human interaction regardless of anyone’s social skills.
I’m guessing you’re quite a logical person who analyses things deeply?
[–]Competitive-Link-912 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The problem is this. PUAs and dating gurus are nothing more that salesman. They are doing nothing but trying to make money.
They create a web of lies and tactics that sound good in a book and are designed to hit the dopamine receptors of the male reading the book. They do not work or sound good in real life but instead of going oh this didn’t work, the man thinking let’s read more (dopamine!) and they take in even worse advice.
The whole 10-20% of men get all the women is because 80% of men have had their minds ruined by dopamine and have no idea how to get women.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Actually good take.
[–]Competitive-Link-912 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you
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