For the sexually frustrated men who are on here to get laid, I firmly believe that there are steps you need to take before even reading a single escalation process or whatever other PUA type advice exists here. Now, don’t get me wrong, the advice in the wiki is quite valid. However, there are certain issues that create unrealistic expectation for yourself (of what type of woman you can get) and this is a mark of your desensitized dopamine drive.

When you’re getting nervous by approaching a hot woman, my hypothesis is that men who fear this interaction are fearful because they’ve affirmed that there is something out there that fits their “collage” of preference (fat ass, abs, curly hair, a type of ethnicity etc). In a way, they’ve almost dehumanized the woman by making them a product of their genetics. And women do this to us too, it’s a product of society.

I have noticed that the men that do well with women (if they’re not manipulative or just ridiculously good looking) have this very wholesome approach to women. I would often see guys like this sleep with girls and think “he could do SOO much better” and it comes from a place of observing that they have actually done better in the past. He and I are different. He’s enjoying the energy of the person in front of him, and my attraction is too heavily based on the physical parts of a women and how they excite me. This comes from watching porn, being exposed to magazines like Cosmo and SSI etc. I would advise people struggling to get laid to literally treat a women like your guy friend. It shouldn’t matter how hot they are, even if you think they’re so hot they can’t be real. To be honest, even if you do well with women, I would still suggest exploring this aspect of your mind.