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[–]Plenty-Age4409 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
So I applaud you for your approaches and I have a head space where I’m trying to get to know girls and not necessarily fuck. For example yesterday I was surf fishing at the beach with friends and I see a pretty girl looking for shells or running or sun bathing or swimming. Obviously the girls are in attractive swimsuits but how do I approach that situation? I’m not trying to be creepy and honestly I’m not trying to just fuck either. I really just want to meet more girls and do more dating. Any tips on approaches in situations like that?
[–]Pringles__ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You have to find a context and say something genuinely. This is very dependent on the situation and what you want to say. Even if I told you what I would have said, this is how I would have done it but you wouldn't do it the same way as me.
Personally, I would have said to the girl looking for shells something like: "hey, that's my favorite activity, what have you gotten so far?" because I mean it, I have always looked for shells when I went to the beach and my grandma (dead) gave me a giant shell when I was a kid where I could hear the sea when I put my ear on it (I know it's not the literal sea that you hear but you get me). You see, that's the kind of context I would have used to start the conversation. Then, at some point I would have said something like "we should definitely go to this place, can I add you on Insta?" (or ask for her number) and end it with "okay I have to go but we'll keep in touch".
I usually want the conversation to remain genuine from the start to the end so I start with a good genuine context that puts them in a good mood, then I usually propose them a concrete activity to hang out with them. I don't let the conversation go on for ages.
[–]Plenty-Age4409 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I definitely like your approach to that situation. Would you follow up with her after getting her number or would you wait to see if she texts you at all? Also would you approach a girl swimming enjoying time with her friends? Or girls sun bathing? Or reading? Im a bit socially naive since I’m an engineer who works with engineers and my work basically segregates me from women. And now I telework too.
[–]Pringles__ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I would definitely text her but only for logistics. I wouldn't chat by message before the first date, it's a waste of time.
For your situations, it all depends on the context. Can you start the conversation genuinely?
Sunbathing girls are just difficult to approach as they are trying to relax and may be topless.
Girl who would be swimming and having fun with their friends, you could probably invite yourself in and have fun with the people. Try to include yourself first then you can approach the girl in question. Don't approach the girl directly, take some time before. Also, approaching the group to have fun with them should be genuine and not just a way to get into a conversation with the girl.
A girl reading? You would have to stop her for reading which is a risk you are willing to accept but you have to start a genuine conversation about something else. Don't talk about her book if you don't read books. Find a context.
Why don't you start a hobby like hitting the gym, dancing, etc.? It is way easier to meet women in activities you want to genuinely do.
[–]Plenty-Age4409 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Current hobbies include: Surf fishing, Fishing from my paddle board, Off shore fishing, Custom fishing rod building, Running with a run club, Marathon training, lifting at a home gym, I volunteer at habitat for humanity once a month, Also into guns and mechanic work, I am a reader as well
While these hobbies don’t put me into proximity of women I’m not sure I’d rather be dancing or at a gym with a membership. My hobbies are true to me. I certainly wouldn’t feel genuine starting a gym membership with the intent of meeting women. I suppose I could try and find dancing lessons but man I have no rhythm and can’t hear a beat. I think you’re right about meeting women at activities but I don’t even know where to start. I run at my run club there is one girl my age who shows up and she is not my type from a personality perspective. I thought about joining a boxing gym but I haven’t pursued it yet. I have good relationships with a lot of people in the community from a social status stand point but the only time I feel like I’m in proximity to women my age is when I’m at the beach or at the store. But I get pretty bad approach anxiety bc I don’t know what to say like at all. I definitely feel like women have to struggle with the dating scene up here as well which brings some comfort to the idea of cold approach but I feel like I need at least some excuse to say something to them and I can’t ever think of anything.
[–]epimpstyle -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
The girls are not single (especially the hot ones), they have multiple choices to select their partner in their circle of friends, colleagues, etc, you must be better than all her possible partners and in this case, she will talk to you, otherwise, you have no chance... why would she choose you if she can bring her phone and call another guy from her circle of friends who looks better than you, it is funnier than you... etc?
You are right that you must initiate the talk but you must take into consideration a few other things - the most important one is to choose a girl from the same league as you.
My two cents.
[–]Pringles__ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
The concept of "league" is bullshit in the first place. Some women use that as an excuse but there ain't such a thing as "league" in seduction.
I attract girls I find hot easier than some less attractive ones. There are girls out there who are at the moment trying to fuck with me (or tried) who are hotter than some girls I'm actually interested in.
Also what tells you that I'm not hot or funny or even interesting in the first place? I'm hotter, funnier and more interesting than most men out there even if some men are hotter and/or funnier than me. I'm confident in myself and I know what I'm worth.
That 10/10 girl is not the only prize, I'm also the prize.
If she prefers to go for someone else, let it be. Yet, that changes nothing to the fact that there are women out there who are interested in me and not someone else. I know this for a fact as there are girls who are hot and interested in me that I actually nexted because I don't find them interesting.
[–]ResponsibilityKey427 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Leagues exist bri
[–]Pringles__ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In your head.
[–]epimpstyle 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Look at the couples on the streets, you will understand the concept of "league", you will never see a hot girl beside an average-looking guy...
Regarding the "prize"..... I don't know dude... but if you come with me to meet some girls, they will stop talking to you in the next second if you don't stand up from the table when they are standing up, also there are high chances to appear with them in the newspaper or on TV. At this moment I can not say that I am prize :-)
Anyways, if you have success with your mode of thinking then go ahead, ignore what I'm saying, but I see everything from another point of view.
[–]Pringles__ 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what you want to believe. I see couples of ugly guys with hot women all the time as much as I see couples of hot guys with hot women and couples of hot guys with ugly women.
When I was balding and considered myself ugly, I was in a relationship with a 9/10 (I don't rate women but just so you have an idea). I wasn't owning the bald look, shaving my head and hitting the gym yet.
I'm not saying I attract everyone but I'm pretty sure that some of these girls you are talking about would definitely talk to me if I'm interested in talking to them in the first place. I don't care what they want (even if I respect it), I care about what I want first. First, let's see if I want to talk to them then we'll see if they talk to me. If I show interest, usually they reciprocate.
[–]ozzzy83 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not true at all. More often than not, I see ugly, or average guys with hotties. Why? Because being confident, charismatic, and charming, matters way more than looks. Why do you think there are a lot of handsome and tall guys being rejected non-stop? They don't have a game. PLUS, even hotties say that they prefer an average guy because they think that he will be more faithful than a handsome guy and will worship them more, plus they want to be the one who is more attractive in a relationship.
[+]Creepy-Storage-1786 -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
What if I approach 100 women during night time and be "genuine" with my approach as say: "Hey pretty eyes! You evoke irresistable arousal in me. Id like to have beastly sex with you." ; What will that get me?
[–]Pringles__ 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes it would get you some girls though that kind of approach has its risks and may get you into some issues.
If you genuinely approach them to fuck them then you are at least being honest with them.
However, I personally don't approach to fuck girls, I approach to find a girl who I want to be with or fuck and get at least 1 date before taking the decision.
[–]Creepy-Storage-1786 -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
However, I personally don't approach to fuck girls, I approach to find a girl who I want to fuck and get at least 1 date before taking the decision.
I think I lost braincells
[–]18Mandrake_R00T5 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You asked a stupid question
[–]18Mandrake_R00T5 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A restraining order on an absolute stranger from at least 10 of then
[–]JLifts780 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At least one will find it funny but you’ll be be banned from multiple bars and possibly arrested before you meet that one
[–]Cormagnon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think it's just those first few words to get things going is my big issue. I can get matches but can't start a conversation
[–]greenlight144000 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re probably just really good looking to have girls approach you and you not get rejected most of the time. You’re probably muscular or something
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