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DangerousCharm · 2022-06-20T17:24:48+00:00

The ‘ensure she never finds out’ is where your answer is. You’re essentially lying to your partner by hoping she doesn’t find out. That’s how cheating goes. If you want to know if it’s okay. Tell her. The two of you are the only people who can decide if it’s okay for your relationship or not

thebestoftheworst95 · 2022-06-20T17:15:23+00:00

If you have to ask this question, then your moral compass is not gonna allow this to sit easily in your mind. There’re people that are openly polyamorous, and who even have regular side chicks without their wives’ knowledge, and they can do it because their moral compass allows for it to be acceptable. For me, from a completely amoral point of view, this is going to implode in the future for you, because I think you think of it inherently as wrong and are looking to rationalise it.

Personally, I think it’s wrong and difficult to do it behind your wife’s back. If I’m scared of what she’ll do/think/say, I’m not being honest in my relationship. It’s an act riddled with fearful choices and I know it’s an impossible act to keep up for me personally.

ProbablyAutisticMe · 2022-06-20T17:48:12+00:00

Are you seriously asking if it's wrong to cheat and trying to justify it by saying you are horny?

thebestoftheworst95 · 2022-06-20T17:13:32+00:00

Wrong subreddit for this.

thebestoftheworst95 · 2022-06-20T17:13:03+00:00

"Is it a morally wrong"

I am going to make a leap a faith here and you are a Christian. In a Christian marriage, it would be violation of moral law to have a sexual relationship outside what God ordained.

If you aren't a Christian, that's would be adultery, and your spouse would be so upset with you.

Either case isn't socially acceptable.

may-begin-now · 2022-06-20T17:19:19+00:00

The lie of omission is the hangup. It's what will hurt you mate when the truth comes out. Monogamy has its drawbacks in such cases. You seem to be more open and less monogamous then your partner in this case.

Due_Avocado_1921 · 2022-06-20T17:19:26+00:00

It depends. If you're honest about it and your partner can live with then you're fine. if not of course morally wrong. Many people lead on mutual consent open relationships so why can't you?

20ftScarf · 2022-06-20T17:44:24+00:00

If she knew about it, that’d be one thing, but no, that’s not an ok secret to keep. In a hypothetical world where you knew she’d never find out, maybe there’s a debate to be had. But I guarantee you aren’t as sneaky as you think you are.

You fucked up. You ain’t the marry in’ kind. Get out now.

Kukantiz · 2022-06-20T17:52:31+00:00

Belongs in a different sub where they will tell you what you already know.

There are plenty of women that are down for nonmonogamy, but that takes honesty that you aren't displaying at the moment.

thebestoftheworst95 · 2022-06-20T18:10:58+00:00

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thebestoftheworst95 · 2022-06-20T17:52:51+00:00

Another troll post.

mrblack-- · 2022-06-20T18:06:58+00:00

If your partner did the same thing, how would you feel?

… well there you go

traybro · 2022-06-20T19:02:00+00:00

It’s called an open relationship, I just don’t know if you’ll like the other half of what that relationship entails (her being free to sleep with other men).

Pix3lerGuy · 2022-06-20T19:38:50+00:00

It definitely is morally wrong, as she definitely will get hurt if/when she finds out. However, nobody here is stopping you from doing it, and it's probably more common than most of us realize. It's your life so you do you, but be prepared for the consequences if/when she finds out.

2022-06-20T21:14:33+00:00

Stop thinking about what we can say, my best advice as woman just look for a couple that understand that or make the relationship open 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

H8beingmale · 2022-07-11T20:28:55+00:00

if its a sexless relationship, then sure

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