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[–]revente 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
By actively interacting with women you want to fuck/date the most.
[–]Comfortable-Rule-854 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Been there, done that. People might be advising you on some books, lines, plays or whatever.
In my opinion it's about getting the joy and confidence back. Think about why you lost it, was it your "fault" or circumstance? Don't try to go back in hard-core flirting mode right away, rather remember what it felt like back in the days. Imagine the joy you got from it, lust for that feeling and just get out there. Don't let a few awkward moments or negative experiences mess with you. You just need a few good moments and you'll be right where you left off.
Flirting is about being interested in someone, showing this to the person and being confident about it and oneself. Don't over complicate it.
[–]Gamer_IRL 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
In my case, I never knew how to do it, b/c I don’t know how everyone else learned it. So whenever I try it comes off as bizarre to women.
[–]Comfortable-Rule-854 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hm then some introduction might be good. I.e. some videos, books etc. But don't overdo it, most of it is just shit and over complicating things.
I assume you're a guy? The first thing you should focus on is being confident with yourself. That does not mean that you have to believe you're the man of men. Just be okay with who you are and in a social setting.
After that, learn how to show interest. Eye contact is king.
Step 3, wait for her to make it easy to be approached. If she wants to, she will give you a chance. Don't waste your resources on cold approaches on women that didn't invite you.
Step 4, that's where you need to see what works for you. Approach her, say something funny, confident etc. This one you'll need to find out for yourself what works with you as a person and your style.
Practice and positive feedback, just keep at it and don't be too hard with yourself.
Flirting is a joyfull, easy but intense thing. Keep that in mind when you start to oberthink or complicate things
[–]Liberaler 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That would depend on the reason you lost it.
[–]Empty-Afternoon-3975 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd watch a few of the old Simple Pickup videos on YT. Reason is that they seem like casual conversations and it takes away the scarry-ness of flirting. Turns out most people are normal and it's ok to talk to them.
[–]Slomojoe 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
putting in reps
[–]srosete 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would need some background knowledge in the first place. No more Mr Nice guy and Models would be my go-to books. Then I would try to put in practice what I've learned as a starting point, and get better from there
[–]devolve79 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
as with anything in life and half of the answers here. practice makes perfect
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