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[–]Liberaler 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've often got those limiting beliefs that she thinks I'm weird, she won't be interested anyway and so on, you know it. *From a rational point of view that seems like real bs ... *
You really have a lot of good qualities, I agree. But you are wrong, it's not bs. Some women will find you weird and not like you and are not interested in you and the things going on in your life. That will always be the case no matter how you are. You can't be attractive to everybody. Accept that.
Also, the more you are a man with principles the more polarising you will be. But the people who like you, will like you more then. But if you are a people pleaser, who tries to be liked by everyone, no one will really like you because you are too fluid to have any profile.
[–]manmadestool 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Were you always handsome or were you an ugly teen? I'm a f but it wasn't until maybe 2 years ago I became confident. I was ugly and fat as a teen and practically no one wanted me. I'm pretty attractive now but it took like 5 years until I accepted it. Now I know I'm attractive but I'm kinda weird sometimes and it stresses me out lol.
Also if you're more of a softer guy tinder sucks. I feel tinder is for more outgoing and aggressive people in general. Even if a guy is average compared to you, if he's more fun and has better convo skills he'd probably get the girl in the end because tinder is meant for quick, high engery interactions. Bumble or other dating sites that show more personality might be a better fit?
Also what kind of girl do you want? If you want a girl who's not the average baddie you see on tinder then you might be the perfect man for that specific type. Like I was worried guys in general wouldn't like my baggy clothes and shorter hair and awkward nature but I wanted a guy that was also a little abnormal so if this typical guy didn't like something about me then I probably wouldn't like something about him. Basically I'm saying you attract what you are and if you're quiet, awkward, and a little nerd then you'll probably attract more women like that organically and don't need to change anything.
[–]swiftmartin 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks a lot for your answer. I haven't been ugly before. I've always been rather handsome I'd say, but I definitely was the quite shy and introverted kid. And only in the last couple of years I've improved my style and appearance that I also come across as really good looking I'd say.
In terms of what is my type of girl, I'd definitely say I'm more into conventionally attractive girls.
[–]MrWolffman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're way more attractive than me and I do fine on Tinder. Don't worry man!
Thank you mate!
[–]kingofmylunchtime 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very good looking guy mate.
As for your inner game you just need go get out there and see what works for you.
Cliche as it is just be yourself. Or at least a watered down version initially.
Good luck.
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