~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
avarageusername
[–]SocialReject101 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why are you texting her and not asking her out?
Either she is just there for attention or is getting bored you are not doing your manly part. Just ask her if she is free this Saturday and set up a date.
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
We'll first of all I didn't want to push too much right away as she said that a simple coffee with a friend stresses her out a lot. But then also I'm in another city for the week so I can't ask her out anyway.
[–]MrBlack__ 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
she's chatting shit.
If you can't do a simple coffee how are you supposed to have her sucking your dick. Not to be vulgar but she's wasting your time. Bro I've gone on dates with girls after 1 day of talking. If she's not available for what YOU want, move on. She's not even close to being available
Stop talking to her
[–]TestaverdeRules 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the hard truth
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
texted for a while, had a good conversation and she seemed to be intrested in talking to me. However didn't get any reaction on flirty attempts and compliments.
Let me break down all the mistakes you made:
Texted for a while
Gave her compliments
Did not ask her out on a date
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How long would you say it's ok to text before you ask for a date? Also why are compliments bad? I didn't shower her in them, it was pretty much only within a response on a photo.
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What did you compliment her for?
You can ask them on a date after about 10-15 messages.
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She sent a pic with her dog and I said something like "two cuties" (translated from another language). 10-15 messages seems like asking for meeting up with an obese guy with a beard instead of a cute girl 😂
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah don't compliment a girl on her appearance..it just makes her feel objectified that you only want her because of her looks. Women usually hate that feeling.
10-15 messages is perfect to ask any girl out on a date. Tried and tested..anything more and you risk boring her. You're on a dating app to get dates. Most likely, so is she. Most women are there to get dates, not pen pals. So get to the point quickly
[–]Liberaler 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
your goal should be to get her out on a date in real life as soon as possible. Before that you yourself can't even know whether you are interested at all. Don't emotionally invest in the slightest before she has shown up in real life. Before that any text you exchange does not mean much, so keep texting at a bare minimum for now.
One mini step of escalation would be to have a voice call with her = more indimate than text
I see, I guess my idea that it's expected to get to know eachother a little bit before setting up a date is kinda wrong then? I see this tip pop up here and there set up a date asap but it feels kinda weird trying to go on a date with someone you know nothing about.
[–]Liberaler 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Here, of course, the (sub-)culture you are living in and your age comes into play.
I see, I guess my idea that it's expected to get to know eachother a little bit before setting up a date is kinda wrong then?
How can you get to know someone without seeing/expiriencing the other person in real life? Meeting up is the best way to see whehter there is chemistry. Waiting longer just raises the expectations of both sides and could ruin your chances because of some silly missunderstanding via text.
Don't view it as a classical date, view it as meeting up with potential romatic/sexual interest.
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Makes sense when you put it that way, thanks for taking the time out of your day to help out! I appreciate it!
[–]Krouser1522 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she truly has social anxiety then yes try and just chat with her it’s ok if you have to put a little more work with girls who are quieter/introverted or a bit socially awkward..if your ok with that then yeah it’s ok to give her a bit of leg room and do more talking than she does. As long as your communicating with her and she actually consistently communicates back I don’t see too much of an issue
[–]heretolearnsth 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
texting is for logistics , text any girl more than 5 texts before fucking her & enjoy the beauty of getting ghosted & being treated like a piece of trash by her .
Text ? send 1-5 texts to set a date , that's all.
How the hell am I supposed to know if I want to fuck her or if she's even worth paying for that date then? It's not that I don't trust you but this whole culture seems shitty af to me.
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not sure I would waste my time on her. She has issues and I don’t think you’ll ever be getting laid.
[–]Accomplished_Egg_928 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Many unsolved issues" = Run
She could be a broken women, after validation until she gets her confidence back and is ready to find a real man.
Don't get involed with women with issues from the past that are still affecting them. It's like a guy who is still in love with his ex while dating another woman.
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]SocialReject101 5 points6 points7 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]MrBlack__ 4 points5 points6 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]TestaverdeRules 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Liberaler 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Liberaler 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Krouser1522 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]heretolearnsth 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]avarageusername 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Accomplished_Egg_928 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link