21, M and recently single. I've been trying to get into dating since I came out of a long ass relationship that didn't end the best and left me with a huge hole in my heart. I tried mostly online as I didn't have my eyes on anyone in my social circle and Idk how I feel about cold aproaching a girl. I'm not really into ONS so I'm looking for a relationship material here. Anyway I've been getting some matches but the conversations just weren't hitting off (is that a correct phrase?). From the first message it feels like most girls just really don't feel like talking to me. I tried many different aproaches but nothing has truly worked yet. I secured many numbers just for the interaction to die off slowly, or they straight up ghost me after 2 3 messages. Some of those girls even matched with me again after I re-created my account which is like...why? Lol.

I tought I'm just not hot enough to keep their attention, until I had a talk with my female friend explaining to her how I think most guys that are 9 would go for a girl thats a 6 but a girl thats a 9 wouldnt give a 6 guy a chance. Shit, I don't think a 6 girl would give a 6 guy a chance most of the time these days. Girls are always looking to date up while guys will lower their standards if it means getting sex. So after that she says so why dont you sleep with a 6 then (thinking I have really high standards and thats why I'm single). And I say "well because I'm not a 9". And is like kinda surprised "yes you are". So wth then, is my game tremendously bad or are guys just stuck on hard mode now because girls have so many more options? And yeah I'm not that picky at all, honestly a decently cute face is all I ask for. She doesn't have to be die for pretty and she can be as flat as a wall for all I care. Good personality means so much more to me and that she take's care of herself is very important as well but you can't tell that from a pic obviusly.