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[–]VorpalPaperclip 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sex makes strong brain chemistry. It will change things.
[–]seerslayer 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The only problem I have faced is this : You meet someone. You get in a relationship. Your FWB arrangement is over. Now do you tell this person about your history with your ex FWB?
Even very rational and accepting people have hard time digesting maintaining some contact with FWBs. So it's potentially jeopardizing your future relationships and friendship.
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow, so true.
[–]I_hate_everyone_9919 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly it's possible, I saw tons of friends having this kind of relationship. It's just hard af
[–]sharpiequest 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I have this same situation between a guy I will say is probably one of my best friends. We have fooled around but as soon as we sober up, he goes distant. I question why he won't just do it with me because it's inevitably going to happen at some point and he doesn't seem to have the words. Me being a girl, I have spent hours overthinking what is going on in his head. What you typed here almost perfectly describes what I think he's thinking...so THANK YOU! I think if there is distance between the two of you and she's only coming for a few days, it is very possible to make it work. I think you have to be upfront and tell her all the things you said here. If my friend could say this, it would make the expectations clear and I have the choice to move forward or not to. Do you think you can have the conversation before you commit to her staying with you for a couple of days? That would be best. If you know you aren't going to go forward with it, best to not lead her on and have her stay.
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yes totally understand. Thing is I feel she wants to spend the night with me, she’s come over previously and I was in a relationship then and I didn’t show her any Signs , though I feel she wanted more but she’s too shy to say it. Now that I’m single I wouldn’t mind helping her and enjoying myself . I’m not going to initiate anything. If she initiates , I’m going to make it clear what my views are and it’s upto her to continue
[–]sharpiequest 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How often do you see her? Knowing I'm in a similar boat, I think the buildup to this happening should be a 2 way street. You didn't show her any signs last time. If you do the same this time, she may be too afraid to initiate anything. I would recommend having some drinks where you loosen up a bit and do some light flirting and see how she responds and take it from there. Just be up front before any clothes come off.
I'm seriously curious to know how this all pans out!
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The last I met her was about 4 months ago. We have been good friends but never meet much, whenever we have met , 3 times, it’s always been in either of our places. I used to give her the choice to pick from a restaurant or my place and it was my place , she’s also called me to her place. I never even hugged her because I felt she might get wrong ideas and I was already in a relationship. I made sure that I convey that we shouldn’t get entangled in anyway. I’m sure she’s had a crush on me previously. Even I am curious since I’ve only done it with my girlfriend and never had any hookups or fwb with anyone. I’ll keep you posted
[–]sharpiequest 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why don't you want to be in a relationship with her?
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I used to be Fwb with one of my very good friends, we were fucking for like a year and it remained normal, still is to this day. Just gotta be mature about thing s and have communication. It’s definitely possible.
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks
[–]Narrow-Analysis 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell her.
[–]BigTBoneDog 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well no, i would say it is imposible. I done it, things do change, but it doesn't neccesarily have to be bad either.
[–]Darkwolfplex 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I don’t think you should because she is your ex’s friend too and that just seems wrong plus she may find out eventually and she will lose a friend
The ex won’t find out for sure , she’s moved on and we will not cross paths again
[–]Darkwolfplex 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But what if she finds out from the mutual friend or the mutual friend tells someone she will still lose a friend if my friend ever did that with my ex I would never be their friend again actually my friend did because I wasn’t over the guy and he wasn’t over me but he had sex with my friend and now she has been trying to be my friend for years and I still won’t talk to her
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why are you overthinking this entire scenario ? If you have an opportunity to have sex, don’t pass it up!
[–]HowToStud 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Nah won’t work. Tried and tested. Might not be that bad and you could get away with it bit it will never be the same. I’d do it anyways though
[–]No-Historian-6391 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do ti
[–]Sandvicheater 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You make it clear from the beginning that this will be a friends with Benefits relationships and nothing more. If she's cool then show her penis town if not you keep it platonic friendship.
[–]humptyone 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Been there done that. Hooked up with a friend from high school. Now in our 50s, we were both free. It's not that I lost a friend, it's that it seems it's all we do when we're together. We use to talk for hours. Now it seems like conversation always leads to the bedroom. Tried to date others. She'll show up, and end anything planned. Lost a great friend over this. Would honestly have had her as a friend.
[–]redditor4206903 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nay
[–]redditor4206903 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You are the most beta person to exist in earth.
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]redditor4206903 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Bro look, there is 3,5 billion women in the world. If you have a geniue friendship with this girl, you wouldn't even consider the possibility of f... Her. You either like this girl or you don't. If I was you I would think about it on a deeper level. If you like her, than fuck her like no one has fucked her before. If you don't, don't ruin the friendship cause you are horny. Have a higher level of self control.
You’re prolly right
[–]redditor4206903 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, so act like a man! Make a choice and stick to it. Take what you want! Dating and life are the same. And remember, if you cant have her now, improve and she will come back later ;). They always do...
[–]Q9YZZ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is the best advice I’ve heard till date
Thnx
[–]Adjustedwell 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No, will not be the same. No, you're probably not really friends anyway.
[–]KallKudikonduBaava 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes not extremely close, but we do talk like for a week and stop for a month then talk again , so yeah idk
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