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[–]onsutain 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I’d bet money he likes you
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes I think so too... but my lack of self confidence always tells me no. Plus I'm scared of trying and finding out he doesn't like me and that everything I've felt the last few months was just delusion lmao
[–]onsutain 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Finding out sooner is better than finding out later. Let’s say he doesn’t feel anything for you. The sooner you know the sooner you grieve, process, recover, and move on. A bit cold but that’s one way to look at it. You seem like a fun girl to be around though and I’m sure this guy thinks so too. Just shoot your shot. Worse comes to worst you guys might still be friends and enjoy hanging out.
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you for your advice. I know I don’t have a right to complain in this situation. I‘ve accepted I’ll have to just rise up to the challenge, but that seems daunting sometimes. So daunting that instead of trying I just let it win and in turn don’t try at all (even though I want to). I guess I just don’t know how to even begin to face that fear
[–]onsutain 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’ll feel worse if you say nothing and then see him with another girl trust me. He might be experiencing the same exact emotions you are right now. Life’s short, shoot your shot!
[–]denis_x 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
let me put it like this. if he is a man he will always say yes to a date if u ask him nicely and dont come off like ur gonna prank him or something. just ask him and stop being so insecure because we dont really care much about looks or little things you might precieve as drawdowns. if hes shy and tense its always better if u make the move because young men are insecure af.
[–]excentrik-art 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Invite him over for beer but plot twist, its non alcoholic beer, buy he does not know that so he will be excited and but sober at the same time :D
[–]Connor4really 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Rejection is scary, but you need to take risks to get what you want. Just be direct with him and hopefully it works out. Not what you want to hear, but it's the best option
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What do I say? It's been so long since I've tried or cared about someone I dont even know how to approach it.
[–]Connor4really 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Use your own words, but tell him that you are interested in him and would like to go out on a date. Ask if he's interested and when he's available. Go from there.
[–]SpaceJesusChrist 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Just tell the guy you like him??????
[–]ExcitableSarcasm 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Seriously ^^. Why women feel like they can't make a move, is beyond me.
[–]JustDerDennis 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, personally it makes a woman 10x more attractive. Just because of the confidence
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's beyond me too. Lmfao
[–]TempAcc64 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The odds are in your favor, do something or get nothing.
[–]phard003 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You are young so it probably doesn't seem like it, but if the guy is attentive at all, he likes you at least a little. You would be surprised at how much a straight forward, "hey, I like you" at the right point in a conversation will push him in the right direction. Just wait until you guys connect on something you both enjoy or when the convo gets a little deeper so it's not out of the blue or weirdly timed. If not, at least you know. You're 20 so it doesn't matter anyway. Live your life and if he wants to be in it, let him know he's welcome. Young guys that don't have game, are extremely dense and self conscious about things. He will wait for you to drop clear indicators and even still, he might not make a move cuz he's too timid. You are clearly just playing the same passive game, waiting on him. Someone's gotta get moving before you're both over it. Plus a confident girl is sexy AF for most guys.
Also don't smoke weed with him in the short term. it's great when you're comfortable with someone, but when you're trying to get to know someone, it really impacts your ability to create meaningful conversation. You both likely use it as a way to take the nervous edge off but it's so counterproductive to getting beyond that smoke buddy stage.
[–]Stujitsu2 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
The absolute best thing you can do is write your phone number on paper and hand it to him
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
We snapchat a lot and I see him often. I feel like that could come across as weird? But I also very well may be wrong
[–]JayinHK 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Don't take this dude's advice he obviously didn't even read your post. You're way past the number stage lol. Next time you're drunk together, just kiss him
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Duuuude that kinda feels like a violation
[–]JayinHK 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're right. You can hug him first and see how he reacts. If he hugs you back then see how it goes. I wouldn't spend that much time with a girl unless I was interested. He definitely sounds interested.
I didn't mean to go straight in for the kiss since that could definitely go badly lol. But physical contact and whether it is reciprocated is a good way to gauge interest
[–]Stujitsu2 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Look you are asking how to make a move on a guy. It is weird in the sense that its atypical. But its not bad. You dont have to say anything much he will get the message. You can even have a friend do it. I was young like 15 saw this girl same age at beach we kept smiling at each other. But we were young both with family. Before they left a young lad ran up to me with a piece of paper and said "My sister told me to give this to you". It had her email and phone number. It was adorable! It will be cute even if you have a friend do it.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What are you actually doing besides being friendly with him? I know that's what women commonly do when they're interested in a guy but from our point of view, it looks like you're constantly bouncing back and forth between "we're just friends" and "why don't you get my signals, you idiot?" That's why we don't get your signals. You're flip-flopping instead of being interested all the time.
That kind of inconsistency turns me off, personally, because it makes me think you aren't 100% into me = not sure about what you want.
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’m not sure how I’m flip flopping if I haven’t been sending signals at all this whole time? If I have they weren’t on purpose
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So you want a guy to know that you like him but haven't communicated at all that you like him. Maybe thats where you could start. If you don't want to tell him straight up, then you should at least be doing things like suggesting to hang out more and at various times of the day.
"Want to go hang out somewhere/go to [restaurant name] to eat/go see this movie/etc?"
Things will start moving in the direction you want as long as you're taking the steps to get there.
[–]ChieflyEmeralds 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah. I guess the steps seem bigger than they really are sometimes. Prob just cause I’m nervous about it. Thanks for the advice
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah if you're nervous, they're always going to seem bigger. It's more serious in our minds than it should be. Personally I've always taken nervousness as a bad sign, but mostly because nothing has ever turned out good when I was nervous about someone I liked.
Hope things work out though.
[–]BangaiiWatchman -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He’s probably into you. The only way is to ask him. Rejection sucks but you’ll live. Scroll through the all time top posts of this sub to get some courage and then just do it. Hope it works out!
[–]willtee1 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Grab his dick
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[–]ChieflyEmeralds 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeahhhh not my favorite idea ever
[–]KarmaDoesNutExist -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Literally just go in for a kiss next time you’re talking and laughing and having fun together
[–]Placated_Venom -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You say it straight up, he probably likes you too. Dont waste both of your guys' time
[–]spilispiry 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Generally a smile is all you need, but you could ask a friend to help you as well
Generally a good smile is all you need, but you could ask a friend to help you as well
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No need to make a marriage confession out of a blue, you should just make little steps to deepen your connection and intimacy and see if he is eager to cooperate. Remember to implement some touching, because that is the ultimate target, right?
[–]dark-_-thoughts 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm going to be 100% upfront with you if you don't explicitly state you are interested in a guy it does not matter how obvious the signs you think you're giving out are he can miss every one of them. If you don't want to talk to him text him or vital letter send him an email something but be direct and straightforward. Good luck
[–]AnonomousWolf 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Invite him into situations where it's just the two of you, keep strong eye contact with him as much as possible, and become very touchy with him, long hugs, sit right next to him, lay on his lap if you can etc.
Send out STRONG signals and basically behave like you're already his GF. He should get the signal.
Ideally the more direct you are the better, and if you can make a move do it. But if you're shy just drop strong hints.
[–]mastadonstudios 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh god just tell him ffs
Lol
[–]poly_nerdy_panda 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
just ask him if he wants to do stuff with u if he says no he is gay
[–]StrawberryOne5835 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Indirectly, you can like sort of grab his hand or jsut straight up ask if they want to hold hands if the setting is appropriate. If he reciprocated you can move up to like leaning on him, hugging, cuddling.. etc
At SOME point you’ll just be confidence enough to ask him out :-)
[–]foxyalexa 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Give him a kiss on the cheek and then when he looks at you, you give him that " I like you" smile. If he's into you, he will take it from there.
[–]jerryd777777 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell him straight up
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