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[–]nopenotmedude 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are overthinking and worried about succeeding. Go meet babes. Be nice to them. Don’t bore them.
[–]EnjoyUpdates 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've been doing seduction for awhile, I don't have crazy numbers or anything like that, but even now as I think about settling down I find myself wanting to chase other girls. I think it's hard to let go of the chase, especially, if you have low self-esteem or using users to validate yourself.
[–]ModeratorElbynerual 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
chomping at the bit
It's actually "champing at the bit".
[–]MudFlaky 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Does this have any long term effects such as infidelity and constantly searching for women while in a relationship? I understand the point of seduction is not to get laid every night but more so to be able to pursue relationships you otherwise wouldn’t have had access to.
Does this have any long term effects such as infidelity and constantly searching for women while in a relationship?
I understand the point of seduction is not to get laid every night but more so to be able to pursue relationships you otherwise wouldn’t have had access to.
Answered your own question here
when I do meet a girl who I connect very well with. I feel as tho, I’ll be scared to truly open up and show my true self… someone who
You should always be authentic to your true self... Seduction and picking up girls isn't about lying lol. You're not being "fake" for sharpening your conversational skills. You're not telling them you're a millionaire with a yacht. You're learning ways to steer the conversation better and like you said, pursue relationships you otherwise wouldn't have had access to if you had just stayed totally silent and never made a move in the first place.
[–]timetobbetter 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for making me aware of that, I didn’t realize that I completely contradicted myself there.
I do like your advice. I’m not lying about my true self, I just word it in a way that it comes off as unique. It is a little difficult now to be witty and charming, but it’s something that I enjoy doing when I’m in the moment. I think some days I look at my four year relationship and I see that as a “safe space”. Because we had been dating so long I was so comfortable being myself. Also I was a completely different person than I am today.
I also really like the way that you worded that. “You aren’t being “fake” for sharpening your conversation skills” that truly hit home. It’s fun to learn how to talk to people and get out of my shell. I’ve had a few really good conversations and taken risks I wouldn’t normally have taken in the past but I’m so happy I have. And I’m finding that banter with hints of man to woman attraction is really fun. It makes me feel something I’ve never felt before. It’s almost like I’ve leveled up my “Speech” attribute to level 2/100. Nowhere to go but up.
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