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mightymite88 · 2022-02-23T08:04:06+00:00

All you can do is ask.

Build attraction, wait for the best moment, and then ask. Use your best judgement. But if you dont ask it will never happen.

theseoulplayer · 2022-02-23T09:38:46+00:00

This is a tough one. Most women are understandably reticent to bring a stranger back to their place and are much more likely to accept an invite to yours rather than you inviting yourself to her place. Logistically speaking, I understand that it's tough when you live fairly far away, but you should still aim for a pull to yours. Eat the uber fare if you have to, but a better idea would be scheduling the date closer to your spot, even if that leaves fewer choices. You could always use my "I'll cook you my world-famous pasta, but you have to bring the wine. I'll give you a hint, it's a tomato pasta. The rest is up to you."

If you absolutely must try to go to hers, experiment with some different things to see what works. Remember, you need a reason to make this happen. Basically, you'll be trying to suss out bait that you would normally use to get girls back to yours, but from her.

u/norwegiandoggo gave a good suggestion of Netflix'n'Chill that could work. Maybe ask about pets during the date and if she has one, say that you'd love to meet and play with it. Maybe she plays guitar and you'd love to hear her croak out Wonderwall. Maybe you brought a nice bottle of wine / liquor and just need a place to keep the party going.

This is a tough sell to make, and you need to be prepared to get shot down a lot if you choose to go this route. Because most girls don't invite guys back to their places, especially unplanned, she probably won't have the place clean, might have roommates or family, or any other number of complicating factors. However you decide to go about this, I hope that it works out for you, and if you discover a line or two that actually works for this, please share it with us!

norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-23T09:13:42+00:00

It helps if you have a reason / excuse to go there. For example let's say you talked about a show on Netflix, you propose to go somewhere to watch an episode or two of that show. And then she just happens to live close by.

I will also just say, it's much easier to ask a girl to come to your place than it is for you to invite yourself to a girl's place. So not sure why you're choosing this approach. Is it because your wife is at home you sneaky fucker ;-) ?

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-23T15:29:09+00:00

Netflix like has been said.

"I'd suggest my place, it's kind of far, we can go there if you want though."

Honestly I've had the opposite experience of most people commenting....far more girls preferring their place to mine. Still I get the sense it was a comfort thing. I guess they were more concerned with having a familiar environment than me knowing where they live.

gangoni · 2022-02-23T21:21:41+00:00

I left my hopes and dreams at your place, wanna help me find it?

2022-02-23T17:20:43+00:00

Don't. It's her idea or it isn't one at all.

You need to continuously push and pull her and not be affected or deterred by "how to get her to ask me to come inside." It's the LACK of caring about going to her place, that actually gets you in to her place.

Subject-Craft5870 · 2022-02-23T10:36:16+00:00

WAIT HOLD UP - this is already weird…

Chicks rarely want to bring a guy back to their place for a whole host of reasons. Why can’t you bring her back to your place?

You’re 39. You should have a place. Keep it clean, bathroom clean, bedroom clean….

Ask a woman back to your place. Get a place.

TantalizingTiger7 · 2022-02-23T13:24:46+00:00

Just take it by ear and be playful about it.

Try and spin the request as something the prolongs doing whatever you guys are doing - “I’m feeling some dessert, you wanna grab some bubble tea and head back to your place for a bit?”

I told a chick couple of days ago “ my bedtime is in an hour but I feel like being deviant tonight and staying up passed it while watching Netflix with you.” Was a very retarded line but with good delivery and mood, you can almost ask in any way you want.

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