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surferguy999 · 2022-02-10T19:58:23+00:00

1) decide if you want to sleep with a coworker, if it’s a low end job then I wouldn’t care, but if it’s a career type job (and you’re on the same team) I would avoid it.

2) Def don’t mention the lack of experience, there’s nothing that drives off a woman faster. As unfair as it might be, women (specially at 36) don’t want to teach.

Go over and just hangout, I would recommend a date later on the day (once the sun is going down). Tea is fine, but I would suggest maybe wine and a snack board, pair it with some music or Netflix in the background.

I would flirt with her (go on YouTube if you’re completely clueless). If nothing else use this as an opportunity to practice this skill.

If it was me (and not you lol), I would flirt and just flat out her tell that I find her attractive and have been checking her out at work. I would let that sit for a moment or two, with a big smile.

If I misread her then I would defuse and just play it cool. Otherwise I would escalate.

SpookyKG · 2022-02-10T20:41:34+00:00

I am delaying this meeting with her and she is now asking me if everything is ok

Look, the only obstacle here is yourself.

You're gonna have to meet up with her. You're gonna have to see how it goes. No way around it.

If you try to flail around, you'll only lose worse.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-10T19:51:12+00:00

Crazy to think that at 27 years old you still haven’t learned that dating isn’t about proving you are good enough, it’s about connecting with people sexually and emotionally.

But go on, keep thinking that you have to prove something to her.

rustoof · 2022-02-10T21:08:12+00:00

Just go, touch her until she either tells you to stop or you cum. Thinking is the enemy.

RainbowChardonnay · 2022-02-10T19:55:59+00:00

I think you should strip naked in her living room, cover yourself in body paint, then rub your colorful body all over her walls. That’ll impress her.

Plamb79 · 2022-02-10T19:53:31+00:00

If you want to tell her, tell her. If not, don’t. If you guys end up in the moment of passion, you can just let it happen and see what happens.

CardboardCamera70 · 2022-02-10T20:11:43+00:00

Do not tell her. It’s not her business. Just stay cool and move slowly. Your height/weight sound fine. Be careful with your heart though, you don’t want to get it broken

Bakuninum · 2022-02-10T20:34:47+00:00

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Allaiyah · 2022-02-10T20:34:54+00:00

Don't tell her.

The best advice I can give is that you obviously need to change your framework. You're currently operating from a stance that you're not worthy/ she is on a pedestal. That won't feel safe or comfortable for her.

Try to do some meditative embodiment while socializing in lower risk scenarios. By that I mean: slow down, sink into your body, allow others to do whatever they do, don't feel the need to rush in and elevate the situation.

You'd be surprised at how much it comes across to other people. You'll seem calmer, more stable, less eager, more self assured, less needy, more like you deserve their effort. You'll also be much wittier from that slower, more embodied place. If you're rushed and nervous and over eager, it's hard to see all the possibilities.

MOST IMPORTANTLY: Remember to play. Life is so short dude. It's not that serious. Women are people. Everyone just wants to feel good and have fun. Try to look for those opportunities to make things light and fun.

LilBleeder · 2022-02-10T21:23:19+00:00

My man, what I’m gonna say sounds too simple, but just be yourself, focus on being present with her, clothes on AND off. You don’t suddenly need to be the worlds greatest lover, just pay attention to her. These are the things in your control. If she likes something wholly different than what you have at your disposal, then that’s out of your control. Plus everyone accepts that the second and third times are way better a yay cause you get to know each other’s bodies. Relax by knowing that relaxing is gonna be the key to a great time.

navyadvice · 2022-02-10T23:00:23+00:00

How can you have zero experience and yet you were into prostitution?

rofnacla · 2022-02-11T00:18:28+00:00

Stopped reading at 36 year old from work

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