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[–]Reichka 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eventually there's nothing left to do about the problem besides take responsibility.
[–][deleted] 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Realising that youth only comes once. One summer I ended up working in the wineyards with a lot of old men. All they talked about is how much they miss their youth.
So I got out there and just started trying. Not even with just pussy, with everything.
[–]Wolf_0f_MyStreet 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most need to realize this that youth is a phase And if you dont own it You will loose the golden moment of yo dating life. Or anything for that matter so Better get uncomfortable trying things out like going and all when free.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That typo threw me for a moment. I think you meant "miss their youth".
[–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
I turned 21 and realized I didn't want to be that 21 year old who has never kissed a girl so I decided to do something about it. I am now a 23 year old who has never kissed, But I have been rejected more times than most guys.
[–]gritedge 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You gotta change your game.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ive tried every possible game combination at this point. You name it, I have tried it.
[–]gritedge 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ever tried "be unapologetically yourself"?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Of course. However, girls dont like it when I am myself. I come across as very introverted until I get used to someone before I open up. Then girls tend to not like me when I open up.
[–]gritedge 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
been saying this in multiple places, and still can't emphasize this enough. It's not about being yourself, but about being "unappologetically" yourself. Don't give a fuck a about what she thinks on how you react. And for you: don't try cold approaches just yet. Find a hobby club around you (or join toastmasters if nothing), meet people there. That will be more suitable for you since you will have time to open up, get comfortable and things of high mutual interest.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Find a hobby club around you. I am active in the local climbing community and was very active in that and the outdoor adventure program in college. I was 100% comfortable with everyone there and was 100% myself. I was/am involved in church groups as well.
Still, I never met a girl who was interested in me. They always thought I was the weird quirky guy who people would go to when they needed tips or advice related to the outdoors.
[–]touseef499 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I dont see the point of this comment...
[–]Reichka 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well at least you aren't 21 and kiss-less.
but im 23 and hugless.
[–]Business-Purpose-724 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Taking shrooms. First trip, all social anxiety wiped away, abundant self love, huge success with women.
[–]bigtiddybobcat 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was my catalyst too. Great experience
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve never tried shrooms but I think it might help me, but it’s almost just wishful thinking to think that
[–]Business-Purpose-724 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s just a fact that they help, whether you wish they’d help or not. Obviously do a lot of research on the benefits and how to properly take them first
[–]RealBoi777 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Are shrooms drugs? What are they? I also struggle with social anxiety ;_;
[–]kawaiiobake 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes they are. Shrooms = mushrooms (the psychedelic kind)
[–]RealBoi777 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks
[–]gritedge 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Stop overthinking, it's all in your head. Just go with the flow. Say what you feel like saying. Do what you feel like doing. If you feel like flirting with her, getting closer to her, do that. Don't be afraid of what she/others will think of you. Don't have sex as the only end goal, but just a possibility. Focus on having good time.
[–]chinkbasher 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Basically this.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Basically just having an epiphany and realizing I didn't like the person I was and that I wanted to change myself to become the person I wanted to be.
[–]7heFr3ak 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had two moments, first was realizing i was a fat ugly fuck and the second was a new feeling i started craving after talking to a certain girl (wasn't love).
[–]bacchusbunbury 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I discarded dozens of friendships with macho sociopath men who bullied me because they thought I was a gay because of my personality/interests.
Don't be afraid to fail.
Force change upon yourself with new nouns.
[–]bb54321 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
After explaining a "odd" conversation I had with a couple, my brother explained that they had wanted me for something sexual. At 29 I had no clue. Sex and relationships were mostly just things in books and movies to me then, despite having friends and family in normal relationships. So like I do with anything that interests me I did research. Learning more than the textbook definition of flirting felt really strange to me. Finding out how abnormal I was in those regards made me panic a bit. I guess, much more than a bit. After some minor success, I stopped. I had to move to take care of my mom. Being a introvert I didn't have the energy to take care of someone and date at the same time. But now, after years, my creeping mortality has convinced me to try again. It still all feels so alien to me.
I also learned what ASD was. Not entirely unrelated.
[–]Neil1398 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
With women: got tired of seeing girls check me out clearly and not doing anything about it. For years this would happen
With life: got tired of being too routine and wanted more for myself
For whatever reason in college I went out one night and decided to talk to women without thinking about the outcome or believing I could somehow control it. It was amazing.
[–]gritedge 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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