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[–]norwegiandoggo 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Sit down with your computer, look like you're doing some work, dress nice, take a lot of space and look like you're in a great mood. Scan the room for women casually every now and then. Do you catch eye contact with any of them? Great. Now smile. Do they smile back? Awesome. Then go up after about 30 seconds and ask them how they're doing or ask them advice on something.
[–]i_love_crazy_hobos 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You definitely do not need to wait for eye contact, and this will rarely happen. Especially eye contact + smile. You can go up and talk to the girls without either.
[–]norwegiandoggo 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Of course you can. But you will get a lot of rejection. I prefer 1 shot one hit, over 20 shots 1 hit. But people are different. Some prefer shooting more shots in an hour. I prefer to be a bit more careful with who I decide to approach and maybe approach one girl in that same hour but be a lot more likely to be successful. It's just a personal preference thing.
[–]chethelesser 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What is it's zero his bro?
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You have that risk whether you hit on 1 girl or 20. Figure out what you're doing wrong or aim lower.
[–]chethelesser 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean if you scan the room, and no one does what you just described?
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You have three options:
1) change your style, attitude you project, or body language.
2) wait until other women enter the café
3) go to another café
[–]lilabelle12 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Try to not be too creepy. So, maybe strategically ask them a question in regards to the place or something they may be able to help you with. For example, “what would you recommend ordering from this place?”, then when they let you know, make some kind of eye contact, hold and smile if you can in somewhat a smooth way. Then try to see if you can make conversation after and get their number.
Good luck!
[–]MA_CA_NV_CA 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I goto a coffee shop with the intention of approaching the girls give me the cold shoulder. If I go there with the intention of getting work done or just reading a book, I occasionally get obvious choosing signals and strike up conversations. Overall it’s not a productive venue for me.
[–]Delicatestatesmen 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t approach period. what you do is get a cute dog and sit at the coffee shop until a girl comes to pet your dog then you can engage. If you don’t have a dog go to the coffee shop everyday and soon regulars will sit by you and talk wait for the girl to make convo with you or give you choosing signal. I have met many girls from coffee shops. My dog would also do tricks to help me out.
Another tip is to order two coffees and ask a girl if she would like a coffee say they messed up my order so I have an extra coffee.
[–]IngenuityNo1518 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If your not comfortable approaching “I would approach her in comment something she’s reading or wearing! You can even ask her what kind of drink she drinking say it look amazing!” If you’re comfortable approaching I would go direct in say “ I saw you sitting and I thought you were absolutely gorgeous I had to come over say hi ( With Direct Eye)
Then Introduce yourself, then ask her what she up to now.
Then talk about anything you want. It’s easy in the daytime she not use to being approached.
[–]chinkbasher 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This would creep out 99% of women who are just looking for a break and a bit of peace of mind.
[–]IngenuityNo1518 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It hasn’t happened to me after thousands of approaches you just can’t be awkward
[–]Lincoln4ever -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to write things on my coffee cups and just walk up and leave them on their table, smile and walk away. “I wanted to say hello! You seem really cool. Come say hi if you’d like 😀”
Doesn’t always work, but it definitely has worked. One girl played along and wrote back on her coffee cup. I ended up leaving my number and things went great from there.
[+]Fknluvubro -11 points-10 points-9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t approach girls sitting alone in a coffee shop or restaurant. Leave them alone and be respectful ffs
[–]TheTruth221 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
tell them they have an artistic vibe and ask if they a artist
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[–]CrystalBlueEyes8 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What are you saying? You want to join in asking for same advice?
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