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[–]AlfWoozy 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
3.5 years. She caught feelings, and I caught herpes.
[–]iiexistenzeii 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmfao I'm weak
[–]triangleEye57 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a 2 sentence horror story lmao
[–]Leviathansplunge 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A couple months. The boundaries were agreed upon right from the start and she pulled a 180 saying how she grew very fond of me and wanted to move in with me. Thanks but no thanks, if I wanted that I would have said so at the start.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
More importantly, how did you guys find them?
[–]ze55 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Hiking group
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Not gonna expand on that literally at all?
I have lots of friends in the groups I'm in
[–]ze55 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Sure, so hiking groups are perfect for hookups/fwb, etc.
I always focus on enjoying the hike first and making sure that I have my camera with me and a small drone in my car for after the hike (good convo starter). Then just talk to everyone, if someone caught your eye get coffee/drink/bite after the hike with them and go from there.
The camera is good for stuff after the hike: "hey, wanna go to SF with me and take a few pictures of evening/night Golden Gate Bridge/ Bay Bridge, etc"
And drone: "I am going to fly my small drone around with a camera in this park, wanna come with me?"
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ok thanks.
"Go from there" just isn't descriptive and no matter what I try when I "go from there" I can't get anything
Like, what you're describing is how to find a friend
[–]ze55 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Do you have a couple of spots around your area where you can take people?
I live in CA (Bay Area) and there are good picturesque areas here that I know I can take someone to. If the person is not willing to go with you to get coffee/drink or go to the park etc, they are most likely not going to go home with you.
Next time you go hiking, talk to people and have plans where you are going after the hike. If no one is going to go with you, still stick to your plans to go to the place after the hike, and if someone comes with you great, otherwise their presence is not required as you already had plans after the hike. Like it is that simple, don't overthink it.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Okay, I will keep trying, but I can almost guarantee I'll keep getting rejected for one reason or another.
Yes, I've gone on hikes around the foothills of the Rockies, grabbed burritos, taken girls to salsa clubs and country swing bars, been to board game clubs, you name it.
People have never trusted me with going to one of our places before, why would they ever?
[–]ze55 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Here is another thing, you are already rejecting people who you have not met.
Instead, make plans and remember another persons presence is not necessary as you already have a fulfilling life and they can join you in your fulfilling life. If you have a fulfilling life and were going to that park/bar/place after the hike, how can they reject you if you are doing it anyway?
Also, consider befriending a few guys from hiking groups and doing some group activities with them.
[–]19Black 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
9 months. She caught feels, I didnt
[–]norwegiandoggo 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
6 months. Ended because she entered a serious relationship with someone else.
[–]90mhWXH6rr 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
2y and counting.
[–]Dizzy_Paramedic6216 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never more than couple of months
[–]FunBabyRabies 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
2.5 years. Towards the end she wanted to move forward in the relationship but I didn’t want to
[–]excentrik-art 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I usually never let it reach over 1 year - it helps to keep emotions weak enough.
Also younger the FWB, less time spent together to reduce possible love.
[–]loosemon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Currently 1.5 years
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