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CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-12-09T02:47:33+00:00

People reply when they want to, not when they have time.

People have other things to do, not just sit around every day texting.

Even if people have free time, it doesn’t mean they want to text during that free time and if they want to text it doesn’t mean that you are their priority when it comes to texting.

Being interested or not isn’t measured by how much someone texts, your expectations of how much a person should text if she is interested is just your own subjective opinion and not a rule that others have to follow or even be aware of.

What you consider to be a long time without texting can be a reasonable time for others to text.

Asking if someone wants to go out sometime isn’t a definite plan, it’s more like a “we should do something one day in the future” which isn’t really a commitment to anything specific or definite.

Attraction and true connection happens in person not over texts

Don’t put all your eggs on the same basket, meaning talk to 10 more girls at the same time to diversify your emotional investment to avoid being needy with one and increase your chances of success

hi_im_luke17 · 2021-12-09T04:45:11+00:00

She said she'd love to... That's not bad. Kind of awkward asking her for a date so far in advance when it's not practical since you're far away at the moment. But you got a yes from her on that, so nice going nonetheless.

When you get back to college, nail down to date and time. If she shows up, then she was interested. If she doesn't, then she wasn't.

That's really the only way to tell.

Personally, if you haven't been on a date with a girl yet, don't worry about any games with taking a long time to respond. It's best to cut through the noise and get a date and time nailed it down as soon as practical.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-09T06:01:05+00:00

Would you like to go on a date sometime when college is back?

mabden · 2021-12-09T13:34:52+00:00

Any girl with a high interest level would do everything she can to make herself available.

Check out Doc Love's 'The System' to understand interest level and how to gauge it.

|I ask if she wants to go out on a date sometime

When you ask a chic for a date, have a specific date/time/event that you are going to and invite her along. Using "sometime" is nebulous and leaves the girl an easy out to turn you down without actually turning you down. Asking directly leaves her with a yes or no response. If it is no, but she counters with another date/time then she has some interest. If it is no without a counter offer, then you know she has no interest and you can throw her number away and not waste any more of your valuable time.

ProFriendZoner · 2021-12-09T03:27:05+00:00

Why are you so focused on one woman?

Where's your abundance?

LostFYI · 2021-12-09T15:07:29+00:00

Stop taking response time as an argument for making up your own thoughts to what she might be thinking / feeling about you.

She said she'd love to. Take that for granted!

No need interpret anything further into her texting behaviour. She's made her ground clear, stay in slight contact and take her on a date when back in college (which is when?). Only then it will become clear, if you can develop attraction or the two of you vibe/sympathise with eachother

The fact that you guys snap/text eachother AND wants to go out with you should tell you that she's somewhat interested already. Just don't screw it up in the next step champ

I_am_Jaguar · 2021-12-09T23:10:16+00:00

I am assuming you are the one who is chasing. Girls like to chase more than guys. It’s just you have to give her some space to do so. Be challenging to her. Walk away for a few days just see if she texts you first or tries to contact you. This will really help you understand if she is interested or not. Good luck!

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-12-09T08:08:34+00:00

If she says she wants to go out that's a good sign.

She might have other issues that affect her ability to text. Anything from poor cell phone service to a disability that makes it hard to read or answer texts could make getting back to you a problem.

ProfessionalOne8518 · 2021-12-09T18:33:00+00:00

Block her

brabus4 · 2021-12-09T08:29:46+00:00

If she says she would love to, ask her when she is free this/next week. If she says no just say okay let me know when you change ur mind.

GreatScotRace · 2021-12-09T11:51:00+00:00

People reply when they want to reply to you. It’s not a reflection on how much they like them. Surely you’d want to have a proper conversation with someone that’s meaningful instead of quick not thought out messages because they’re busy? I don’t do half assed conversations. If I can’t be bothered talking to people I won’t bore you with my unenthusiastic chat.

Snoo_96502 · 2021-12-09T19:07:06+00:00

This is very subjective and I would caution against a blanket statement such as "people text when they have time." You are directly in contact with her and I would trust your gut over an internet strangers opinion of texting. When you do talk, does it seem like she's interested, such as flirting back? Or does it just seem like you're making an effort to talk to her to ask her about her day but you get short answers back? If it seems like you are the one always initiating and she's slow to respond I would put that in the category that she's not as interested and move on. If she truly is interested, I'd say she will initiate without you prompting her after you not messaging for a couple of days.

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