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boipokeokie · 2021-11-13T10:39:21+00:00

Learn to take rejection. I feel you, I'm in a similar situation I'm a college student too. Plus, I live in a very raciat place. So lot of white boys and girls look at me with disgust.

I just go out and started talking to people at parties both girls and guys. I'm not looking for a hookup tho. I'm looking for a girlfriend so don't know if parties arw good place for that but certainly better for hook up. Not sure what you're looking for.

Just dress nicely and be confident. Be respectful to other people but be respect yourself too. Also, the definition of creep by appearance is different from girl to girl so you will always look like a creep to some girl. Remeber to be respectful. Just be yourself you will find some one who likes you.

norwegiandoggo · 2021-11-13T09:34:24+00:00

You know the difference between a guy who is afraid of being creepy who gets laid versus a guy who is afraid of being creepy who doesn't get laid?

The guy who gets laid just hits on women and risks being creepy even though he's afraid. He just does it anyway. Pushes through it. Ignores his feelings and forces himself.

And no, girls aren't only into white dudes? If this were true, then the entire world population would be white. But it isn't. Most people on the planet are brown / asian so women fuck a lot of brown and asian guys to make brown and asian babies.

TrajanOptimus117 · 2021-11-13T15:37:10+00:00

There is no panacea that we can offer that will eradicate your fear of rejection/coming across as creepy; bottom line is that you're just going to have to put yourself out there and try and maintain conversation with women.

Don't wuss out now, college is by far the easiest place to do this, and you'll kick yourself if you fail to learn to properly socialise in such an optimal social environment as college, it only gets more difficult from then on.

Always start with something simple, what they're studying, where they're from etc. If they aren't interested in continuing a conversation, their body language and demeanour will be a dead giveaway, if so, just say that it was lovely speaking with them and you need to go get another drink.

No, they aren't only interested in white guys, of course they aren't.

HOWEVER, you're asking this question for a reason, and I presume the reason is that you've witnessed white guys experiencing more success in these environments than non-white guys.

I'm sure the rest of this thread will try to sugarcoat it for you, but studies on women's racial preferences show that white men are consistently the most desirable across all demographics of women, apart from black women. People tend to date mostly within their own race, and since the US is majority white, this can be relevant to dating.

So yes, it can be a factor but it's overall less relevant than your confidence, humour, and yes your level of physical attractiveness (don't let people gaslight you into thinking it isn't important).

Join some extracurricular societies as well, it will give an opportunity to interact with people outside of alcohol fuelled environments.

Calamity__Bane · 2021-11-13T09:38:32+00:00

I’m scared of embarrassment/coming off creepy,

Honestly dude, as long as you keep her safety concerns in mind and respect her boundaries (not the boundaries you think she has, the boundaries she actually has), you won't have much to fear.

blck_mambaa · 2021-11-13T17:58:28+00:00

Ik exactly what you mean man, non white guys wont get where you’re coming from. Yes most girls and even non white girls go after white guys, I’ve seen it plenty of times/and OLD stats back this up as well. Just have fun and don’t try to hard to impress anyone.

Ovce_ · 2021-11-13T19:19:08+00:00

bro tell them u are good at fifa that should work xdd would never expect u to see u here

SmokingWithThreeEyes · 2021-11-13T19:41:53+00:00

The best advice I can give to you is to have strong eye contact with girls. I met so many women on parties during my colleague years by solely making contact with my eyes, it’s insane. First try to establish the contact so she realizes that you noticed her - when she responds back by looking at you, just play the game a little while just to be sure she’s interested, get her in a flirty mood and so on. After a short time simply go to her, make some smalltalk or dance and after that, go further.

This always worked really great for me. From time to time I even started to make out with the girl without even speaking to her…or actually just realizing after we left the club to go to my place that she doesn’t speak my language at all. Good old times…

damiancontrol · 2021-11-13T11:55:54+00:00

Use a wingman

2021-11-13T19:15:15+00:00

It’s only creepy if you keep showing interest in the girls when they clearly don’t show interest in you. If you go up to a girl and start talking and she doesn’t really show interest, then just walk away. A. This will make the girl respect you much more B. This is unlikely but sometimes after thinking it over the girl will actually realize she is attracted to you.

Do not be pushy or clingy, that is an automatic turnoff for girls

krzjasn87 · 2021-11-13T20:11:45+00:00

Learn to take rejection. In my opinion there are two big factors that can help you not be creepy.

If and when you approach a girl be genuine about your intentions and attraction
If the girl does not find you attractive than you run a chance to come off as creepy.

Ultimately it has to do with some things you can’t control but just know that women are very perceptive and the only thing you can actually do to not be creepy is to be clear about your intentions

kingpoonslayer · 2021-11-13T20:44:58+00:00

Most important thing in college for getting girls is friends. Especially since you say you have zero experiences. Ask somebody who does have experiences. Pick a friend whose good with girls and literally watch him and ask him for tips , then most importantly actually practice. If you don’t have friends make some as many as possible. Join clubs, events, greek life if you’re into that. The more friends the better in college, this way your meeting people through mutual connections will make it much easier.

I’m not white but was like you and got laid a decent amount in college and probably should’ve gotten laid considerably more. Advice I’d give is dont focus on race tbh you’ll never know until you try. I found most girls were cool with it as long as you were a cool guy, this was especially true because I had a lot of friends therefore people already knew I wasnt a weirdo / were similar to them.

The single most reason I didn’t get laid as much as I should was simply not trying. There were many girls who liked me but I was too afraid. Fortune definitely favors the bold. If your afraid of being creeph have your friends watch you.

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