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absolutemadguy · 2021-11-07T08:40:33+00:00

Just message him lmao ?

ChoppedBelAir · 2021-11-07T07:34:31+00:00

He's respecting your boundaries. Just because your friend told him to message you doesn't mean you actually wanted him to. He did the correct thing by asking permission. Something he has no way of knowing if your friend did. Many males feel that it's rude or creepy to message girls you don't actuslly know on social.

Also you sound kind of arrogant and he may have detected that and swerved

dbsoooz · 2021-11-07T11:20:20+00:00

Well at first it has nothing to do with having the ‘balls’ to message you first. Who the fuck even is your friend to be doing that? Personally I take any kind of message like that, pointing me toward someone else, as a scam or some wack self-promotion type of thing.

Sounds kind of funny to say this, but if someone I’m attracted to liked an old pic then yeah I’d message. That’s definitely enough of a hint to at least start a conversation. Interesting how we’ve developed new ways of flirting, but yeah that’s my take on it.

Calamity__Bane · 2021-11-07T07:19:56+00:00

Just reach out, he's not going to initiate most likely because he's nervous.

iamfromtwitter · 2021-11-07T11:16:16+00:00

didnt you want to contact him??? so contact him he showed you multible times now that he is interested now make your move

Majesticandroid · 2021-11-07T12:54:01+00:00

You’re so averse to messaging him first you’d rather insult his manhood to random strangers online instead. fix that before you even consider why he’s not messaging you

McClappable · 2021-11-07T08:39:26+00:00

Sounds like a fat waste of time. Keep going on with ur life and if he hits u up then he hits u up.

averageguy4you4 · 2021-11-07T12:14:30+00:00

Just message him. I don't get where's the problem. You want to talk to him and instead of messaging him you ask around why he isn't messaging you?

I'm a man and I would have done exactly what he did. That your friend gave him your Instagram doesn't mean she served you in a gold platter. In his shoes I would be very suspicious.

You want to talk to him, so message him. it's simple.

bruce_maximo · 2021-11-07T12:32:33+00:00

At least you gave him a hint by liking his pic. Most women never respond or block. He is respectful but you basically made it easily as hell lol

TXMedicine · 2021-11-07T12:37:24+00:00

If you were interested in him first then you should message him first. If a girl liked a pic of mine that I was older I’d take the hint but he was being pretty respectful and a lot of guys get fucked around with on these apps so maybe he was feeling like you and your roommate were messing around with him, idk.

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2021-11-07T13:20:32+00:00

I generally wouldn't slide in anyone's dm unless i have talked to them on dating app or if we have met in person, and exchanged Instagram. It comes off as creepy especially when your roommate is the one who gave your insta id. In such cases this would hint as a prank. So it's understandable he has his doubts whether to dm you or not.

Also on dating you start a conversation based on what's mentioned in your bio or prompt. You have some idea what the person is like, their hobbies and little hint of their personality to start a conversation. Right now he doesn't know anything about you since you are not on dating app so he's left with starting the convo in the most boring way imaginable "Hi.." "Hey" etc etc. Which is not very motivating unless he finds you physically very attractive which also it's not established.

Also i feel it's double standard. You don't want to initiate anything yet you think he lacks courage to slide in random person's dm.

JXMMY11 · 2021-11-07T14:36:27+00:00

The shit y’all see on social media is fucking y’all up…IF YOU LIKE HIM MESSAGE HIM. good luck

ItsMeMsG · 2021-11-07T16:13:05+00:00

If you like him, just send him a message. He already made his move, now it's your turn.

redditor4206903 · 2021-11-07T17:40:41+00:00

He followed and liked. You should have messeged, on the other hand it has been a month. If he is a man of value he would already have moved on, lol.

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