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BangReign · 2021-11-03T15:27:00+00:00

Dude, she told you in person she had a busy week coming up and yet you immediately lobbed a specific day (with zero wiggle room) early in that busy week. That's just asking for a no. Get a woman's schedule first and/or pick TWO days so there's more wiggle room there. I would've started soft closing by calling back to the actual logistical information she already provided me with irl. "And how's your wk looking... still actively avoiding fun or no ; ) " etc

The let me know stuff doesn't work reliably in these early stages, in my experience. I just would've said "cool I'll circle back towards the end of the week." Then I would've planned something for either that weekend or next week.

I just don't see how you're concluding lack of interest here when 1) She actually counteroffered for Sat, a prime day of the week. and 2) You made avoidable logistical mistakes, which by the way you can certainly come back from.

Lanky_Banana8599 · 2021-11-03T10:38:29+00:00

I think you handled it quite well. Good job not double texting and actioning a meet up quickly.
From your post she seems interested. The modern woman is actually really busy, hate when people say that if she’s busy she’s flat out no interested. Although, if her schedule doesn’t free up in a 2-3 week span that’s usually not a good sign.
No one can answer that but you’ve done everything you can so you can sit back and relax. If she doesn’t respond then you know to move along.

BangReign · 2021-11-03T16:34:14+00:00

Dude.. I'm sorry but the lack of follow up shows that you are not interested. She said she can't Tuesday but can Saturday. You have to make yourself available just as she does. If you aren't actually available Saturday, ask her if Sunday works

susumaya · 2021-11-03T16:06:57+00:00

Sounds like the “No Dramas” put her off

AloofusMaximus · 2021-11-03T14:18:08+00:00

Schedule issues happen more than most people realize. It can be particularly tricky to line up dates sometimes, especially if you have an atypical schedule.

I've had more than a few first dates happen spontaneously, because I'd texted her and she wasn't doing anything. I've also had plenty of women that I couldn't make anything work due to our schedules.

Doesn't seem like anything out of the ordinary there. If you're able to swing something you should.

Doesn't seem to me to be a blow off answer.

DiamondRider21 · 2021-11-04T00:46:49+00:00

You messed up the moment you asked for a date on Tuesday, she clearly stated she was busy that week. She even suggested a day! Which women who are not interested and play games don't do. You then proceeded to not compromise and make it only on your terms and not even thinking about her. You basically came off as selfish and you would be lucky if she ever texts you back. Learn And grow, best of luck 🤞

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-11-03T11:16:59+00:00

If someone really wants to see you, they’ll make the time. Hang back and let her contact you. If a week goes by and you haven’t heard anything, check in CASUALLY one more time with a specific plans (time/date) in mind, if you really want to give it one last shot. However, if she hasn’t contacted you after a week, she’s just not that interested.

Men tend to hang onto small indicators of interest from women during the initial interaction and assume that means that she automatically wants to date. This isn’t true.

Women are very much tied to the present moment, and are fickle with their emotions with people they’ve just met. She might have had a decent level of attraction to you in the moment, and she got a little emotional high from it, but after you separated that night, it very likely faded.

hawaiiq123 · 2021-11-03T16:27:01+00:00

That was only 2 days ago brother. Give it some time! You’ve mentioned you guys both have busy schedules so expect a response even a week from when you messaged her.

Girls appreciate it when guys give them space. Remember to focus on you as well. Avoid romanticising/fantasising about yourself and her too much as this will set your expectations super high. Take it as it comes, and let things unfold organically.

If it’s meant to happen, it will!

2021-11-03T10:38:46+00:00

Maybe she didn't appreciate the run on sentence in your text

I think you just let her get back to you but continue to either meet other women or be invested in something else lest you get oneitis

I want to say she'll respond since enough rapport was established but whether she does or not, just don't take it personally

iambabyshark · 2021-11-03T17:43:55+00:00

She's interested. Her giving you her number is a huge interest signal, and the fact she texted back proves it wasn't just to be nice. You did the right thing with your date setup (chicks love it when you decide the place/time, closer it is the better). You probably should have tried to scope out her work schedule covertly prior, but she's still interested if she offered another time. For me, I do three strikes: 1. I offer a date and she rejects 2. She doesn't immediately offer a new time (so you're fine on this) 3. I attempt again in a few days and she rejects it without givng another time If she fails all three, ghost and move on to your next number

DiamondRider21 · 2021-11-04T01:06:26+00:00

If you really wanted to meet her you would have called out of work Saturday, but i don't know your situation so that might be out of question. If anything you could have suggested something the following week if possible, instead you put the ball in her court. And i don't understand why you added that last comment.

BuffedLars · 2021-11-03T12:20:32+00:00

Yes you did well.

No one knows if she is interested or will respond only time will tell.

For now stop thinking and forgot about her and meet more women.

Don't rely on one single girl.

Women are like applying for jobs or colleges.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-11-03T12:28:58+00:00

Sounds like you handled it well but she really is busy. Find a time that works for both of you.

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