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Bababooey1992 · 2021-10-08T23:47:58+00:00

Shut up and grab him by the cock…. You’ll get your answer right then and there

Objective-Arm-2322 · 2021-10-08T20:26:21+00:00

same as if it was a guy asking this question basically

(if you hear a guy on this sub ask 'how do I seduce a girl I know' the advice is always along the lines of 'make a move/ask her out/physically escalate and see if she's into it or not' kind of thing.)

So you need to flirt. If he thinks you're hot, the 'seduction' has already taken place! (again, it's the same the other way around, too)

So you just need to find out. Touch him more. Pay compliments. Flirt. Kiss him

I guess if you have mutual friends and you want to find out in the safest possible way, you could ask some of them to put the feelers out lol

kagamiseki · 2021-10-08T21:44:33+00:00

You could start with hugging goodbye as a natural introduction to physical touch, most guys don't get much in the way of physical affection and just a long full-bodied hug could give him some thoughts.

You could tell him you really enjoy spending time with him, [insert reason why], does he want to grab dinner and/or a drink sometime and get to know each other better?

Perhaps even in the middle of a hug, to emphasize that it's not just a casual invitation as a friend.

Some other people mentioned blatantly asking him to have sex or to kiss you, but that seems to me like more of a fantasy scenario than something you'd want to do in real life to someone you respect and care about.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-10-08T20:05:19+00:00

If you want to seduce a guy, the easiest way is to simply tell him you want him to fuck you. If he finds you attractive, he will be all for it unless he's extremely shy and insecure to the point where he wouldn't know how to take action (in which case, I'd question why you find him attractive).

However, it sounds like you're trying to make this guy your boyfriend, not seduce him. If you are trying to figure out if he is attracted to you in the first place, the easiest way would be to simply ask his friends. His friends will know if he likes you that way.

If that's not an option or you want to be even more secretive about your intentions, another way to do it is to talk about other guys in front of him (like dates you're going on or other guys you find attractive) and see how he reacts to those conversations. If he seems uncomfortable or uninterested in having those types of conversations, there's a very good chance it's because he has feelings for you.

tellythesloot · 2021-10-08T20:48:51+00:00

Assuming you're a woman then this should be fairly easy.

Just be straight up like...

"Hanging out with you is pretty chill. Be honest, do you think I'm a generally attractive girl? What's stopping you from kissing me right now?"

SignalSecurity · 2021-10-08T22:42:43+00:00

So one thing to keep in mind when choosing advice to follow is that this sub sometimes doesn't differentiate between 'cute' relationships and 'sexy' relationships. Not official terms in the slightest, but dealing with someone you have feelings and respect for can be different than with a stranger you want to entice and thrill, and sometimes John Nightgame will be quick to act like everythig is the latter.

With friends and emotions, honest communication is sometimes the best you can do. My first relationship was with a penpal/friend of six years, and it was ony when I got my life together did I realize I wanted to pursue more with her. I wrote out how I felt, read over it to see if it still resonated with me as words instead of feelings, and then expressed it to her once I was sure. It went very well - we're not friends or partners anymore, but it had nothing to do with the approach. If anything it swept her off her feet.

Being a girl approaching a guy also gives you a huge advantage. Reasonable guys will be deeply flattered by this kind of thing - you would be shocked at how rarely affection is shown to men. Your shy friend might be surprised and need time to think, but I can't see this being bad for him.

The only thing about this approach is that you need to have no expectations and make no ultimatums when expressing yourself. You are potentially touching a boundary of his - and in that case, there's nothing you can do. That's the risk anybody takes, and respecting his decision - yes or no - is the best you can do to preserve your friendship.

If he's a decent guy, he'll be touched no matter what. This sounds incredibly sweet and I hope your efforts go well for both of you.

RProgrammerMan · 2021-10-08T23:16:15+00:00

Start touching him, putting your arm around him, rubbing his back, etc. It will send a clear message but if he’s not interested he doesn’t really have to do anything. It just tells him you’re available.

maplemario · 2021-10-09T00:19:31+00:00

Please just find a reason to hang out with him and move yourself closer to him. And make eye contact. That should do the job without any fancy anxiety inducing BS.

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