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Chuck_MoreAss · 2021-10-05T17:20:26+00:00

It’s difficult to get into or master sometimes but once you start it gets easier.

Work on yourself. Go to the gym or take up running or cycling. Keep your hair nice and shave if you don’t pull off a beard. Shower daily and smell nice. All of this paired with not bad clothes and some confidence can score you a date.

Really the only thing holding you back is the inexperience and confidence. There are loads of people on YT that help you with how to score a date and kiss.

My piece of advice would be to get comfortable talking with women, and then ask them on dates and hopefully you guys vibe. Don’t be her friend first. You don’t wanna be the emotional tampon she uses while talking to other guys. Show interest and make your intentions clear from the start.

At your date, say she looks nice and then keep the complements low. Touch her arm when you tell a joke and she laughs. Lead her into the car and into the restaurant with your hand on her back to establish physical touch is okay.

If you do these things you should have any problems my guy. Try tinder if you can’t meet someone.

Good luck

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-05T17:40:43+00:00

How to change mindset?

Go to Belize or the Dominican republic and experience abundance

I feel like everyone else seems to understand sex and dating, except for me

This isn't true at all. Men arent having sex at record numbers. A third of guys had zero sex in 2018.

I find hard to see anything changing for me, or seeing myself having sex or being in a relationship.

Go to the gym and lift like your sex life depends on it, because it does. I'd also read books and watch videos on dating

LARPing_Kiltsman · 2021-10-06T04:04:57+00:00

Be your own friend first. Building true confidence means knowing who you are and what you can do.

bigsharkswipe · 2021-10-06T16:03:19+00:00

Self improvement Lots of learning and taking risks You can't learn if you don't screw up so just read up here and practice, see what works. I'm 21 almost 22 and my lay count is around 30 (actually closer to 40). Lost the vCard around 14/15. Women find my past intriguing cause I was a general scumbag in society (street dude) and I turned my life around and got some money and I'm almost done with school. Have an intriguing life story and appear mysterious or just make the shit up

joeyOH1964 · 2021-10-06T22:37:13+00:00

The first step in changing your mindset is to become a creator instead of being a victim. I would highly suggest you read, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. The “law of attraction” is what we put out into the universe comes back to us. This means you train your brain to realize you are worth loving and girls are attracted to you. This doesn't mean you should act arrogant, but you silently tell yourself that your going to find a girlfriend or love. Next, you should defuse any triggers in your mind that make you feel not worthy of love. Triggers are things that set us off in the wrong direction and lead us to have catastrophic failures. They are set off by experience or interaction we've had with others such as parents, grandparents, other family, friends, teachers, and others.

In order to achieve success, envision yourself with a girl that you find attractive, then talk to her. No one gets a job without submitting an application. Also, remember to choose someone, who exudes self-confidence and is beautiful on the inside. Physicality fades, but internal beauty is forever. I wish you all the best.

Mmm91for · 2021-10-05T21:30:26+00:00

I also was in a similar mind space about 2 years ago. I lost my virginity when I turned 22.

You got to adopt a selfish mentality. Put women second and don’t think of them as some sort of prize.

You also need to increase your testosterone levels. You should work out more and increase you muscular appearance. I recommend sprinting.

Also Semen Retention! This is a big one I promise you. Just go on the semen retention subreddit.

Also read self help books like “Breaking the habit of being myself”.

And most importantly find your purpose. Your reason for living.

All these things will make your a more charming/ attractive individual. Picking up women will be like second nature.

toad_succ · 2021-10-05T21:06:45+00:00

Go to therapy

vettelvr · 2021-10-06T01:46:38+00:00

Just hang in there. When you least expect it it will happen. Don’t get discouraged. You are more normal than you think.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-06T00:41:47+00:00

Learn proper game, implement, lose your virginity quickly.

Simple.

MoveLikeLasagna · 2021-10-06T03:02:41+00:00

Every morning you must reaffirm Tell yourself: "I'm interesting" "I'm handsome" "I'm confident" "I'm worthy"

Next approach women just to say hi. Give them a nice compliment. This will build up muscle memory.

Lastly... read.

I suggest 'Art of Seduction'

Learn from the examples and develop your own style.

Take your time and don't rush. All good things take time.

Groundbreaking_Cup95 · 2021-10-06T04:04:15+00:00

I’m someone whose parents were quite conservative, in the sense that you should have a relationship with a woman for love, not for sex. My Dad was always a strong man, but never made love to my mother in my presence. I had no idea how to make sexual advances on women. I had women who had crushes on me, and was a very well brought up, happy, confident kid, but in the “how to approach” department, I was doomed and was destined to becoming a sexual fantasy. It wasn’t until I met friends who were “getting laid” to realize I had work to do. I tried to get better, was nervous and shaky and failed A LOT, but I also got laid. It starts off 10-90, fuckin horrible numbers haha, but it slowly improves. You’ve just gotta see rejection as futile and meaningless, and that as long as you learn your lessons you will make better decisions, become more confident in yourself, and don’t be too hard on yourself, you’ll find improvement. Learn how to talk to yourself and be open to the fact that your opinion and the identity that you’ve constructed for yourself might be wrong, that’s how you change mindset but it’s fucking hard to do. Good luck!

A great book is “Mate: become the man women want” and Mark Manson’s “Models: attract women with honesty” These books won’t get you laid with any women, that’s a pretty dark world that has a lot of manipulative ness to it. But it is about having dating better quality with women you’re compatible with, how to become attractive to women you’re compatible with, how to make advances on those women, having better relationships and having more satisfaction in dating.

WafflesTheDuck · 2021-10-06T05:02:17+00:00

Hang out and talk with all sorts of women. Senior citizens, that black mom in line with you, snotty girl nieces, whoever. Strike up contextual conversations like about self checkout or that song on the store radio.

Get to know them if the opportunity presents itself like being at the same table at a wedding.

Seeing women as people helps take the unknown factor down a bit.

Also, as a woman who approached plenty , having no shame helps a lot. I never took it personally because i just didn't care. But not everyone has that ability .

Legendofbutter · 2021-10-06T16:01:20+00:00

Dude I’m having this similar issue with my current girlfriend of 5 years were I’m struggling to dirty talk/text to escalate the intimacy by flirting and it’s slowly killing my relationship don’t even stress about it I think it’s all about pacing don’t rush to tell her everything send 1 text at a time that explains how you feel and keep it simple but flirtatious my current issue comes down to me being affectionate during sexy time rather than describing the things in subtle ways that would hint towards a sexual advance only our part if that makes sense, also keep in my shooting your shot is all that matters with a girl don’t expect anything when you run into one just be yourself and don’t force by that I mean let her carry the conversation don’t just try to constantly ask questions and flirt or she’ll lose interest majority of the time and think you’ll only want sex the hard part is getting someone to stay with you long term while you are changing mentally overtime new challenges will arrive you can’t be afraid you can’t let yourself be discouraged you have to work on controlling your impulse to say something when she doesn’t respond the less attention you give after responding the more mystery you’ll have from her pov and if she’s interested she’ll text you women can tell when a mans confident or timid the are very emotionally aware as men struggle to be often times based on my experience, they know themselves when they can get pulled by a guy and once they open up sexually you have to find the mystery of what she likes talking about step. Step let whoever you run into carry at some point you’ll forget this but everyone finds themselves again and realizes sooner or later whether they lose their partner or not that you just have to relax and play it cool even if you think you aren’t if you stick with the mentally it’ll eventually become you just don’t abuse it and become a player imo but if you focus on yourself you by default won’t have time to immediately respond or get anxious so workout or do an activity that you enjoy and just ignore waiting for a response by distracting yourself it works and you’ll see yourself improve I guarantee it

MuMuGorgeus · 2021-10-06T17:27:40+00:00

You are not alone dude, I felt this way my whole life, and I still do it sometimes.

It's been two years that I decided to focus on my self improvement, and exorcising my demons. I live a better life know. I still don't get girls attention, but I'm leaning not to it be a burden.

I advise you to do the same, because if you find a girl, she's the one that is gonna have to deal with your demons and lack of character.

There's way more in life than dating, besides what society, the world, and even evolution may tell you. And even if that's not true, you can't appreciate someone if you don't appreciate yourself. So self improvement is the way to go, virtue.

No-Note- · 2021-10-06T19:56:13+00:00

Are you fighting society at the moment? Society says you have to act a certain way so you do. Even though your mind and body are telling you the exact opposite. Constantly at war with yourself over your feelings and urges? Does that sound familiar at all?

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