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5_7pickup · 2021-09-28T13:04:44+00:00

A moment of silence for the fallen brother in the friendzone.

Ok for reals though, ugh its really crazy how socially inept some of you are. She literally told you she just wants to be friends and youre here trying to rationalize a way to still get in her pants.

Bro yall went on 3 dates and she aint interested. The be friends part is just to let you down easy. Have some self respect and tell her no thanks.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-09-28T15:31:56+00:00

When a woman suggests friends it’s just a polite way to say, i don’t see you as a man i would want to date. It doesn’t really mean “oh sure let’s hang out as friends and be best friends forever” No it’s another way to say “i don’t like you” but in a less hurtful way.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-28T14:47:41+00:00

Maybe she's sizing you up to be her:

FREE meal Thursday guy if you've been paying the past three dates..

But three dates in and she's telling you she sees you as a friend?

CUT YOUR LOSSES NOW ASAP - you're only wasting your time.

A girl knows more or less within 2-5 minutes if she sees you as faceable or not.. and definitely after the first date..

3 dates?

Sorry man.. it's

GAME OVER

MJStruven · 2021-09-28T16:16:01+00:00

Being friends with girls is fine. Just know your motivation if you continue to see her. Don't grovel, don't beg, be her FRIEND, and meet her friends to grow your social group and opportunities. If you think you're too into her to continue, then do yourself and her a favor and cut it off.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-28T12:38:36+00:00

No, it's female speak for "I wouldn't want to date you if you were the last man on earth". So you can be a dingleberry (a piece of shit caught on a hair between the pussy and ass but never making it to one or the other) or you can have some self respect and say no thanks and gonna contact.

liightt · 2021-09-28T12:30:00+00:00

Did you try to kiss her on the first date? If not, she probably lost interest romantically

hihi9888 · 2021-09-28T14:56:42+00:00

If u want to be friends with her then sure hangout, always good to have people to do things with. Sounds like u just want pussy so maybe not. Up to you tho

swardhan · 2021-09-28T15:20:13+00:00

What you want is clear in your mind. What she wants is made clear to you. It doesn't matter what she thinks by saying that she wants to be friends. She still wants to meet up. So what you do is live your life but dont try.

Master the art of not trying. Nothing is absolute in this world. All you gotta do is make things better with yourself not with her. Focus on the things that are in your hands. Don't focus on what she is thinking or doing. Focus on what you are doing.

Maybe try on other girls and talk about them when you meet her (If you meet her). She wanted to be friends in the first place.

Good thing is that she hasn't been creeped out by you. So you are good in general. And also show some novelty. Everyone likes that. Makes them want more.

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-09-28T17:30:51+00:00

Be you and take charge of the situation. Everything with every woman in your life is a test. You're either growing in value or diminishing. Its not a bad thing, it just is. So how do you take charge...?

Step 1. Do what you honestly want with what she gave you. You still want to date her, but do you want to be her friend while hoping this happens? If you don't feel like it, tell her no, but understand you have less than 1% chance of dating her, hoping she calls you again in a few months or you bump into her at a restaurant a year from now. If you want to be her friend and hope to start dating her again then say yes. Small chance but better than the first option, but requires time and mental investment.

Step 2. Realize that what you are currently doing is NOT working. So you decided to stay her friend. Guess what? You can still flirt with her, in fact you should flirt a lot more with her and claim its nothing because we are just friends. Be relentless and funny and teasing and whenever she asks about it or questions if you're flirting with her, deny it is anything. Learn to be the best flirt in the world. stare into her eyes a half second too long and then give her the devilish grin. tease her about anything and everything. Tell her things like, "are you wearing THOSE chunky boots tonight? We're going out, not to a warzone! just kidding you look amazing...except for those shoes!" and then laugh, stare a half second too long then smirk! Then lean in and whisper, "you look perfect just like you are"

Step 3. When she finally asks you out, tell her you're not sure you're ready for something serious. Maybe you are thinking of moving, or starting school, or joining the circus. It doesn't matter, just don't commit right away. But now that you are possibly dating start giving her little compliments when you see her, "wow your ass in those jeans" and when you have quiet moments before, during, and after romance, "god you have the most amazing legs" and "I love how fun you are to be around and yet you're so sexy too"

Step 4. You decide if she is the one or not. If you say no, she'll be writing and asking me advice on how to win you back next month.

_3m17y_ · 2021-09-28T21:45:24+00:00

I think you should take the comments at face value

dumandanonymous · 2021-09-29T01:21:59+00:00

You gotta be willing to risk it all. Tell her you enjoyed spending time together but you don’t want to be just friends. What you’re looking for is something more. Say you’d love to spend more time with her but if she’s not willing to be more than friends then you can’t keep going on dates with her. Trust me, you don’t want to be her friend it will only make you more desperate.

ScrabbleKnight · 2021-09-29T14:29:51+00:00

Bail - fuck that. Don't let anybody curve you who don't deserve you man..

They should be lucky to date you - it's not the other way around. If they can't see that, fuck em, no matter how much you may like them. It's not going to make you happy in the long term if she doesn't find you as attractive as you find her - find balance man

Lov3sin · 2021-09-29T07:21:44+00:00

Smile and send her a msg saying" buddy let's go have a great time!" Take her out to a club make her your wing girl . And buy her a shot for every assist then towards the end initiate physical escalation while saying we shouldn't be doing this we're just friends as your turning the heat in her , kissing neck ,deep eye contact, physical touch, dancing and go for the win . Even a woman of Christ falls under temptation put in the right situation. Maestro direct the perfect symphony

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