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transintraining · 2014-11-25T21:16:12+00:00

Look at it from a reversed perspective. I've fucked around with girls that were normally being begged for attention but that did not mean I wanted a relationship with them. They just weren't interesting or they did not have the right characteristics to be a girlfriend.

Chances are you're attractive but you don't have the qualities that they're looking for in a boyfriend.

derphurr · 2014-11-25T22:30:06+00:00

Not to be offensive, but are you boring? Are you good in bed? Are you not too bright, but good to look at? Do you have interesting in depth conversations with them? Why haven't you asked them in a "hey I'm trying to improve myself, can you be brutally honest with me and let me know why women might not want a long term relationship with me"

You need your own hobbies and interests. Pick something you want to become an expert in.

dinersaur · 2014-11-26T06:26:49+00:00

Couple problems:

You're still young, and probably dating younger girls. I'm 25 and usually date girls around your age and the majority of them are flaky and uninterested in a long term relationship. Try to find girls that are slightly more reserved, intelligent, older, and more likely to be looking for a longer term thing
You seem to be meeting girls at bars and other nightlight places. Definitely not the place to find long term relationships. LTR's to me are all about day game and social circle game, because they girls you meet at bars are interested in hooking up. It's self selecting
Be damn good at sex. Be the fucking king of sex. Not everyone is going to be sexually compatible with you, but being overall good at sex will at least make these hookups continue to last.
Be emotionally available. I've found that being independent and having an abundance mentality aren't mutually exclusive from being emotionally available. When you're together, dig DEEP with these girls. Understand their hopes, desires, and aspirations (and talk about yours). Chicks really respect this and it leads to a feeling of closeness, which is what you want for relationships :). Also, be comfortable with yourself in sensual connective situations, post sex especially. Interlock fingers, kiss her on the cheek, cuddle real close and truly choose to connect, run your fingers down her back, etc. Most guys are cold and unable to express themselves intimately outside of sex, this is your chance to show your softer side after pounding her silly a few minutes before ;)
Develop your own interests. Are you smart and funny? Do you talk about interesting things and have good conversation? Be the person you would want to date. Being good looking isn't good enough for the best girls.

I definitely have this problem. Many girls I lose after a few hookups, but I also have many girls I turn away because I don't want a serious relationship with them. What I've realized is that the girls that are really into me and want a relationship I've been more effective about the points above.

Hope that helps!

larrylegendary · 2014-11-25T22:59:45+00:00

This is a blessing for you. It will make you re evaluate yourself in a deeper sense.

DaygameCoach · 2014-11-26T03:33:04+00:00

So, you are looking for a serious relationship. You need to communicate and/or sub-communicate that while screening girls to make sure they are looking for the same thing. I wrote an article about this here: http://www.daygamer.net/2012/07/06/how-to-get-the-right-girlguy-communication-skills-101/

qiang_shi · 2014-11-25T21:32:10+00:00

Sounds like you're out come-dependent.

All I can say is that chicks are most likely be feeling your needy aura.

Do other shit, be awesome, lift, ride, box, surf... Whatever, but do not make girls your destiny... They're just walking vaginas without much else.

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