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geekyclown1 · 2012-06-21T21:10:00+00:00

I am really confused. Why is going to school to better yourself for a good job make you a loser? Sitting at home because you don't want to work or better yourself makes you a loser. If any woman looks down on you for going to school, then she is one you don't want to be your gf anyway. Also, why not talk with women who are also at your school. They can't have too much of a shit opinion on you if they are doing the same thing. Finally, as an older guy - don't make yourself younger. A LOT of women prefer older guys. A LOT.

chet_hunter · 2012-06-21T19:55:11+00:00

I can't tell you it doesn't matter brother, of course it matters. What I can tell you is that is matters a lot less than you're thinking little breh.

First things first, why are you at (25) lying and saying 24? That's just weird brother, I'm not sure that lie makes any difference for one, but also when you're lying like that it just reinforcing your SHIT POAR inner game. You need to be comfortable with what you're doing little breh. That's first and foremost. Why can't you just tell her you're going back to school?

Shit losers guys get hot chicks ALL THE FUCKING TIME brother. I see it all the time, but if you feel bad about yourself that shit is going to shine through brother. It's going to shine right through.

Calm down, I'm sure you're a cool enough breh. You need to accept your life before you're going to get it accepted easily by others though.

uberafc · 2012-06-21T23:13:37+00:00

26 year old fuck up here, and I can totally relate to your situation man. I'm going to school for a degree myself and its going to be about a year and a half or so until I'm done. I keep working to make myself better everyday. There are some days where I feel like nothing will ever change. Looking back, though, things have changed considerably for me over the past six months. Getting my self esteem up took a bit of trying. It was a combination of many things, such as meeting all kinds of cool people at school. I graduated from a JC a year ago and I just recently got to hanging up my degree. It's a bullshit degree, an A.A. in Transfer Studies. However, it represents a significant milestone in my goals. It really helps me a lot to just look at it. Perhaps there is something similar you can do to bring your confidence up and be more comfortable with your current situation?

bluehat9 · 2012-06-21T20:51:59+00:00

Take a cue from David D'angelo if you can access any of his material, even just his old basic e-book. Don't answer questions. When someone asks you what you do, respond (to blatantly steal from him) that you're an assmodel. When they laugh and say, "no really, what do you do?" you say, "Ok ok, you got me, I'm actually a retired assmodel. The cutoff is 23 and a half, now i'm behind the camera shooting asses all day."

The idea is you say something extremely playful, and don't give in. Don't give the girl what she wants, an answer. It should not be a serious lie, just a fun little joke, and you should carry it on as long as you want.

When she gets sorta pissed and is like, "Why are you being like this? Just tell me!" you say, "God you're so cute when you get all worked up like this" with a big smile on your face, and continue to not tell her.

On another note, you obviously aren't happy with your life, so I think you should focus on making yourself a better person. That, of course, doesn't happen overnight, but it happens everyday.

seddituction · 2012-06-21T20:47:10+00:00

First work on your self esteem. We all went through shitty times. Just a few years ago I was so fucked that I was basically doing nothing other than smoking and jerking off. Needless to say I wasn't getting any pussy. Now I look back and laugh. Build your life and have goals be serious about them. All the best of luck

mabden · 2012-06-21T22:01:20+00:00

You have a limiting belief that you can't get with girls who you think are in a better state than you. Get rid of that. I have known guys who are downright deadbeats (no job, education, direction, looks, whatever) yet snag some of the hottest chicks around.

Get your shit together by:

Find something you are passionate about, Chase it.

Have a direction, ie mission. (doesn't have to a long term, life defining goal, just something that will make you a better person. Follow it.

Meet as many chicks as you can.

David D'angelo, David Deida, Vin DiCarlo are all great resources as is the website below.

http://www.pua-zone.com/

30vanquish · 2012-06-21T22:01:27+00:00

It matters but not as much as you think. For example, if you see a smart girl reading a book and get into an epic intellectual conversation with her. Your other traits don't matter as much because she sees lots of value in your intellect and smarts (of course it depends on the girl).

If you see a girl with nice fashion and you look good and know your trends and talk well with fashion the other things won't matter as much if you have raised your value by that conversation.

realtalkdude · 2012-06-21T22:05:43+00:00

Think about it this way: are people more attracted to rational depression or irrational overconfidence? Keeping this in mind has helped me a lot recently.

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