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[–]surf_0 7 years ago [recovered] (13 children) | Copy Link
If you've already gotten the "yes" your work doesn't end here. Its now your job to continuously make the girl feel incredibly desired and comfortable at the same time.
Remember, she is entering a new scenery going to your place. Your number one job should be to keep her feeling as comfortable as possible.
At this point she most likely has a pretty good understanding of who you are as a person and is interested in discovering more.
My advice, keep physical contact and flirting going in the uber, grab her hand, her leg (gently). Talk to her about something funny you saw at the club. The creative juices should be flowing pretty quickly in your head right now (depending on how many vodka sodas you've had), so talking shouldn't be tough in this situation. Once arriving home, open yourself up to her and show her something you are passionate about, you want to show her who you are on a deeper level (I promise you being vulnerable and showing your true colors are what women love to see). My go to is my book collection, women are fascinated by it and it often gives tons of conversation topics that eventually lead the girl sharing intimate passions and stories back.
Once this connection is established, you've made it. Enjoy the rewards.
[–]Snazzy_Serval 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Once arriving home, open yourself up to her and show her something you are passionate about, you want to show her who you are on a deeper level (I promise you being vulnerable and showing your true colors are what women love to see). My go to is my book collection, women are fascinated by it and it often gives tons of conversation topics that eventually lead the girl sharing intimate passions and stories back. Once this connection is established, you've made it. Enjoy the rewards.
Once arriving home, open yourself up to her and show her something you are passionate about, you want to show her who you are on a deeper level (I promise you being vulnerable and showing your true colors are what women love to see). My go to is my book collection, women are fascinated by it and it often gives tons of conversation topics that eventually lead the girl sharing intimate passions and stories back.
Is that a better move to take then just sitting down on the couch and trying to make out with her?
I've never brought a girl home so I have no idea.
[–]surf_0 7 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
In my opinion, always.
Think about it, going directly to the couch or bed usually means one thing...right? You want to make her feel like she is more than someone you just brought home to make out with or sleep with (and hopefully you are looking for more than just that). Make her feel valued by sharing parts of you with her. Things will flow more naturally this way than a forced situation by going directly to the couch.
[–]Snazzy_Serval 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Cool thanks, that's something to keep in mind.
For me I have a huge problem with getting friendzoned so I assumed that if I don't try to escalate with a girl I'd get screwed, or in this case lack thereof. But then I realized that in this type of situation where I met a girl at a bar or club that night the only reason why she would be at my place is to bang.
Oye it's complicated.
[–]surf_0 7 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Personally I feel that you may just be over thinking, and also doubting yourself. At first it is complicated, but its also fun! You can't forget that.
Girls are attracted to confidence. <--- The biggest thing to keep in mind is this fact.
This relates to speaking to her about something you're passionate about, because the underlining is that you are confident in the subject and that translates to many more things in the mind of a female.
Believe in yourself and work on relieving that doubt from your mind.
[–]Snazzy_Serval 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes I'm absolutely doubting myself. I recently got out of a situation with a friend/coworker where we were going to bars late at night and she would come back to my place but I didn't escalate and now she's seeing some other dude she started to do the same thing with and I'm sure he did escalate. So I'm absolutely terrified of making the same mistake again.
Of course meeting a girl at a bar is a completey different situation but I'm still worried. The whole idea of bringing home a random girl still seems a little out there.
[–]oh_yeah_no_for_sure 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeaaaah maaan, that's my problem too! I'm a savant at making platonic friends with girls, lol, but I don't know how to escalate unless they're super into me and being painfully obvious about it.
I feel like if I brought a girl home, it'd either go great BECAUSE she was taking the lead... or we'd end up having a deep philosophical chat and she'd leave at 2 with a nice chaste hug. Fuck. Kill me.
[–]My1Addiction 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yes.... yes it is.
[–]Snazzy_Serval 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Because....?
[–]My1Addiction 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The OP explained all the reasons why the method he proposed works and the benefit.
You’re advocating taking someone you just met into a strange place to get her and going straight for the kill.
There are nuances to this shit, enjoy the game. make her feel comfortable, let her take in the new environment, she’s obviously committed to getting freaky with you by coming to your place, but she’s curious about who you are and where you live.
By establishing these talking points it also gives you something to come back to after round 1 is done.
Now, situation obviously dictates here - if you’ve been escalating all night and the Uber driver just got front row seats to your amateur porn show on the way over - go straight to pound town my friend, but if there’s any doubt in your mind, open up, make her feel comfortable, build in some kind of transition point so that you’re not spending 2 hours showing her your anime collection.
[–]Snazzy_Serval 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not advocating anything. I'm just trying to figure out how things work and why.
As I said I never brought a girl home like that so I don't know what she would need. I do have experience bringing over girls I've known for a while so the necessary level of comfort has already been met.
I'm primarily afraid of her cooling off and wanting to just be friends.
[–]My1Addiction 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yea that’s understandable,
In my opinion and experience- jumping out of the friend zone is hard and definitely not something you want to attempt at your place when it’s just you two.
[–]xxsimplyjosh 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
another good tip k is to talk about the hobbies in a passionate & confident manner. They dont care what the specific hobby is (im talking about you video games), you’re conveying a positive experience that is special to you such that she feels privileged to be a part of and thats all that matters.
[–]oh_yeah_no_for_sure 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome, thanks bud.
My takeaway from this and the other comments is to kinda play it by ear based on how strong the sexual spark is. Strong enough, it should take care of itself… not quite there, keep working on the human connection while maintaining some physical contact.
Appreciate it, everyone!
[–]Rick-Morty 8 points9 points10 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so similar to me that I could have posted it.
[–]hunterpua 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go back to light small talk. Its all about comfort and keeping her brain occupied when you're on the way home because if you're too aggressive or things are just too quiet she may get second thoughts but if you're making her feel comfortable and distracting her with conversation then time will just fly and before she knows it, she's on your bed. Once she's there, that's when you go back to being sexual because you know why...
[–]IMBDD619 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you've already got her going home with you in a Uber, you've already accomplished the most difficult part. If she agreed to go home with you, she should know that it's for sex. I would suggest trying to continue the same level of intimacy while in the Uber as you had before leaving the bar/club. Hopefully you've been making out with her and teasing sex as a possiblity before you asked her to come home. Once you get her home, if sex is already on both of your minds, you probably won't need to do much at all when you get home besides show her where your bedroom is. If she seems somewhat hesitant about sex, either show her something cool/interesting at your house and talk about it passionately to her and try to make her more comfortable or for extra effect pour yourself and her a glass of wine or some other drink and do as above. If weed is legal in your state, and you aren't worried about getting crossfaded and you get the vibe that she smokes too, smoke a bowl with her. That'll really improve the vibe. I hope this helped somewhat.
[–]Scootmcpoot 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
With the weed part, I always find and “facade” or front I put up trying to be cool or whatever just vanishes and I become a bumbling idiot with no goal except sex lol.
[–]xxsimplyjosh 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a good question and you shouldnt feel shameful asking it because thats how you learn and get better than yesterday.
Honestly the three things i need to remember sre this when i pulled a girl. 1) she MUST be comfortable with you at all times. If she sense something weird she will bolt out w.o a sound. 2) keep her emotions up. just playfully tease her a lot but dont overdo it, do inject some genuine statements or two in to make sure shes feeling you and not a bunch of teases stacked on top. You also wanna touch her lightly in some places where she giggles to keep that playful vibe up because thats the only way you’ll be able to see if she reacts to u in a positive way or negative and thats when you tune back if she doesnt react well eg you went too deep...
3) eventually you do want to show ur passions to some degree since she does want to get to know you at a deeper level. By opening this up to her eg photography or reading books for example and talking about it inna confident and passionate way you keep her interested and allured. As long you are comfortable and laid back she will feel it too. If you feel nervous she WILL notice it too and she may think twice.
Doesnt matter what hobby you’re in as long you don’t try to hide it she will like it. Just talk about it like its the best thing
At this point you’re showing her emotional vulnerability and she will feel ecstatic about it since for her to reach that level means she is getting something from you that others couldnt and she feels special/loved
[–]oh_yeah_no_for_sure 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love it. Thanks!
[–]Heavell85 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You must have some kind of pictures or video or something you can talk to her in the evening then when you ask her to come to your place ask her if she want to see,hear or whatever you want. Just not tell wanna come at my place without anything to do there
[–]NotAHumanoid 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
!remindme
[–]Serg8850 points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
In the cab: touch and kiss, reduce conversation. Otherwise you'll have to re-seduce her when you get home, because you lose momentum. If you have to talk about something, "you have nice lips" then kiss her, "you smell nice" kiss her on the neck etc.
You don't need to be funny or interesting at this stage. It's obvious why you are in the cab, even if you used some excuse. Just keep it sexual and you will be fine.
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