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[–]calleballe01 8 points9 points10 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well the first step I advice you to take it stop being so hard on yourself. You seem like a great dude that’s just a bit unlucky with the people you meet. Keep living your life, work out at a gym, get on some activites like group cross fit o maybe even some martial art. Get on with some reading. But most of all, enjoy the time you spend with yourself during this process. Give yourself credit every step on the way and you’ll learn he invaluable lesson that the most important person in the world is yourself.
I know how it feels man, feeling like a failure. I had the same feeling after I got dumped. I just want to sat That that feeling is so untrue but IF you feel that way, prove to yourself that you are not a failure. This new way of looking at yourself will reflect on everyone you meet.
[–]dailymanup 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great advice.
[–]spinsilo 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It sounds like your environment has closed you off and made you become despondent. You need to start changing that so that you can get yourself out of this rut.
Start with your looks. Are you going to the gym? Do you need some new clothes? Don't be so frugal that you're not willing to spend a little money to look good.
Get outside. Go walking, running, climbing. Some activity that involves being out in the open air. Maybe join some groups to do these things with others to get you socialising.
What are you listening to? What are you watching? Are you listening to something that inspires and motivates you? Are you watching things that make you laugh or feel positive? Get rid of any negativity you're taking in.
Generally start doing things that are going to make you feel better and raise your energy. Don't take the world too seriously. Relax and get out of your own head.
Then start making small steps. Talk to people. Laugh with them. Joke with them. Doesn't matter who it is. Your friends, family, better still, people in shops, people in restaurants, people in shops. Be open with people. Doesn't matter whether it's girls, guys, old people, young people, whether they are bystanders or staff. Just get used to feeling a part of the community around you. If you practice that enough, you'll raise your energy to the point where dating will come naturally. When you're in that space, you'll know exactly what your online dating profile should say, you'll know exactly what pictures to use, you'll know exactly how to act and where to go when you get a date.
TLDR; focus on fixing your energy and negative outlook, and the rest will follow.
[–]Brandonva804 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you want to get laid it’s quite simple. Hit on as many girls as possible during day game.
It could take you three months to find a girl but if you approach enough one will be willing to give you a chance
[–]dryo 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol, I always say that, and it's true, people make stuff very complicated, ofcourse, reading some techniques work aswell but women sense desperation, like an Axe bodyspray,So my tip would be, percieve first attraction, get a number, isolate, women care so much about discretion, so discretion is always a key, I find it, really stupid to be talking about a girl with other dudes, keeping stuff to yourself is always good, no matter what you're looking for, there's nothing more awful feeling for a girl than being looked as a slut.
[–]elgodo7 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Go gym build muscle and lose fat. Dress better. Work on your posture. Work on eye contact and a deep voice. Talk to 20 new girls a week by any means, day game, night game or apps.
[–]giveketoachance 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read Jordan Peterson’s Rules for Life or consider doing his self authoring program. Changed my life.
[–]bkamin14 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe try dating websites you pay a subscription for, I assume people are a lot more serious on those. You can match with someone more compatible probably.
[–]Putins_bishop 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Seems like you need to jumpstart your engine. Not joking here, but your best bet would be to buy some nice new clothes, buy a nice bottle of scotch, and hire a call girl for the night.
In the morning you'll still have the clothes, some nice booze, and a great memory. You can tell yourself, I just fuxked a hit girl, I can do this.
[–]aadil7 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This doesnt give you the satisfaction like earning it.. anyone can pay for anything but the buzz in that is just not the same
[–]Putins_bishop 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True but he's never going to land a chick with his current mentality. He needs a boost.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So, what kind of hobbies do you have and how fit are you?
[–]alwayslearninggame 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You need to be true to yourself first. Write down what makes you an awesome person and look at that when you wake up.
Go to the mall and find a hot looking retail girl. Tell her that you have a date and ask her what would look good on you. Make sure what she picks is congruent with you...and buy it. Have one outfit that makes you look good.
Then practice smiling and making eye contact with girls. Just do it. There are 100 more steps but start with that...
[–]NegativeCollision 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s over, unless you buy my books, my merchandise, tips and tricks
[–]InFa-MoUs 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
might not be a popular opinion but you're old enough to just pay for it and get it out the way
[–]a_sinking_ship 7 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
That defeats the entire point. I use the potential of sex as a carrot on the stick for self improvement. I want to learn more on the process of attraction than the end result.
Paying for it would be extremely depressing and risky.
[–]InFa-MoUs 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
cool then i guess love your life, but understand that first time magic you're hoping for isnt likely to happen, if it's causing you stress just get it over with, and i promise you'll wish would've gotten it over with much sooner
[–]a_sinking_ship1 point 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I am expecting the first time to go not that well. My main point is learning the process from getting A to B. Paying for the goal would not help.
It is like someone who cheats on an exam. They got the grade but did not learn the material.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Pay for it. It's the oldest industry in the world, and he and she can guide you and be invested in your experience.
Hire an escort. Tell them everything ahead of time and what you would like to do
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