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[–]rafr256 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Most guys want to but don’t actually do it. Ask most decently attractive girls they’ll say they get creepers and cat calls all the time but not nearly as much cold approaches as I would’ve thought
[–]TeaIsbestservedwarm1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yeah, which suprised me, but says a lot about men that catcall
[–]SalesAficionado 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
None of you are actually answering my goddamn question.
[–]bandsupjay 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂
[–]gbizzle2 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Its safe to assume most people cold approach. I have expressed the idea that cold approaching is beta and had people whining and downvoting. Its the fact that most men either dont get chosen on by beautiful women or they cant tell when they do so they go for the cold approach method.
[–]SalesAficionado 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
People are whining and downvoting because this is the dumbest shit I've ever read. How the fuck is cold approach beta?
[–]gbizzle2 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Going around validating women who've shown you no signs of interest. You go and approach 10-15 women and only get one somewhat attracted to you. Now after all that work you finally "scored". You finally "win". Now she's the prize and you try to please her. You have to earn her respect etc. This is a beta situation to be in when she knows she "gave you a chance".
[–]Inno_cent_jr 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most stare . Of the 1% that are brave enough to show some intention, half catcall or are too aggressive or try to go the friend route. The other half are the creme de la creme.
[–]Huskermang1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I never approach women honestly and unfortunately. Hate getting rejected, but also I assure myself that you’ve probably been hit on 65 times already and I’m not gunna be the super smooth fella that’s going to make you want to go anywhere with me. I’m pretty awkward but not really, idk.
[–]StannisBaratheon6969 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love the cold approach - ladies love it too. Make them laugh and they will ask you to join them for a drink. If the joke bombs look out!
[–]bowtech3dhunter -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Where are you fellas going that you have all these options to cold approach? Bar, grocery store...?
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[–]Sue__Me__Then 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm not sure that there have been any studies on the percent of people who do cold approaches. It's probably just a community wives' tale (if such a thing can exist in a community of PUAs).
[–]cottagecorehoe 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Woman here.
In my day to day, most guys just stare. A handful will catcall or make aggressive sexual comments. And then a few will actually come up and talk to me politely.
At bars/clubs, way more men will approach and talk, but I think this is because it's not that odd to do that in those environments.
[–]SalesAficionado 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Let me ask you, how many times a month do you actually have men approach you in a direct/ballsy/elegant fashion such as "I find you attractive, I would love to get to know you".
[–]cottagecorehoe 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I can speak for the recent month! For context, I'm 23, recently moved to a large city, work full-time Monday to Friday (so I don't get out much then), but spend my weekends out and about (as long as the weather isn't terrible!).
In the last four weekends, I have been approached in the manner above approximately 2x per weekend, if I'm remembering correctly. This feels more than it was pre-pandemic, but maybe I'm misremembering/feeling like it's a lot because it has been so long since I've been out and around people, and I really didn't have much social interaction until the last month or so LOL.
[–]SalesAficionado 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is super low when you think about it. It seems like yes, men cold approaching is not common. How do you usually react when men cold approach you? I'm sorry you have to deal with the cat calls and the staring. Men should be elegant and honest with their approach.
[–]cottagecorehoe 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Idk if it's low/high since I haven't frequented bars/clubs any of those weekends -- these approaches happened just in the street or at a local park or at a coffee shop picking up food. These have all happened in less typical social-y scenes.
Staring? That's definitely happened a ton. And it's alright! Staring I can deal with for the most part, but cat callers can be kind of scary.
Pre-pandemic, if I went out to a bar/club, I could easily end up with like 10+ approaches in one night. I'm sure once I start going back out it is going to be like that again or possibly more since people seem antsy to socialize.
I'm polite back, and if they want to have a brief chat, I'm happy to do so as long as I don't get creepy or weird vibes from them initially. I do like meeting people. If we connected, I'd definitely exchange social media or phone numbers after a conversation.
Super nice to have your perspective honestly. Yes, I agree with you. Bar/club approaches are super common because it's socially acceptable. Thank you very much!
[–]cottagecorehoe 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Of course! Happy to help.
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