Do women bounce the second you show insecurity?

MellyPatrelli · 2021-07-19T06:44:41+00:00

The whole thing about faking confidence has always been confusing to me. If a guy is a confident person, and he wants to be with girls who like confident guys, then that is brilliant! But if a naturally shy/anxious guy is using these tricks to feign confidence to impress girls who hate “weak” men, then they are going to end up stressing throughout the duration of their relationship, and eventually losing the girl once his true nature shows through. If you’re confident then be confident and go for girls who like that, if you’re shy then be shy and go for girls who like that! Women aren’t made in a factory and have all the same likes and dislikes, you can “shop around” and find someone who fits in with your personality. I can say this as a girl who has always been extremely attracted to shy/nerdy guys, and have instigated pretty much all of my relationships and sexy times! There have been times when confident guys try hitting on me, and it turns me off if anything. Also, please note that I’ll agree it seems that most women want confident guys, but I’m definitely not the only one who doesn’t.

gaboy518 · 2021-07-19T05:28:04+00:00

Gaslight her bro.........for your guy’s future children

dtrwa · 2021-07-19T07:05:24+00:00

The correct answer is: You tell her that you hate night clubs. Whether you go or not depends on the situation.

If she loves night clubs and it's her main interest, you're just a bad match anyway.

Shadow__Account · 2021-07-19T14:07:03+00:00

The way I view it, there’s an overall feeling you bring out of someone and you can have major Major flaws or down sides but when some of your other qualities are amazing to her she will Let it slide until the total balance drops below a threshold and than it can suddenly become a dealbreaker. So mainly it depends on how much she is into you, I had my best first date ever a while ago and on the second date I was just totally off and I literally got a text afterwards that said : who are you? Lmao. Also how you deal with your insecurities obviously matter and although confidence is always good some women will prioritize it more over others, so it all depends on the girl the situation, how you handle it (being honest and vulnerable about it) I mean I hope you already had sex if its the 4th date so she’s probably already into you and if you don’t act all weird about feeling off on clubs there probably won’t be a problem. If you still Not had sex and there’s already less attraction because you don’t pull the trigger, showing insecure behavior just might be the drop that spills the bucket and makes her lose attraction. All possible

Famous_Durian · 2021-07-19T16:09:34+00:00

I dont think so. Its about the overall. And if you fuck it up at first, you can always fix it afterwards. That is how i managed to escape the friendzone with a very sexy girl. We met on tinder, i was shy, insecure and made 0 moves. No touching or escalating. In the end i confessed my feelings and then she even bro-zoned me.

Then we broke all physical contact. Only wrote a few texts here and there during a month. By that time a grew a beard, watched tons of dating and seduction videos and i promised the fuck out of myself that no matter what, when i see her next time i WILL shoot my shot, no matter what.

Bro i didnt even know what i was doing. We sat at a bar, i didnt even remember what i saw on all videos i watched to prepare. I just bantered and remembered to do some touching. Fuck the escalation ladder if you dont remember it, i just did something. I shit myself and i shit myself even more when i got no positive reactions from her, all i got was neutral ones. But fuck it, she didnt react negatively and she was still sitting there with me so i kept going blindly and acting confidently. Bar closed, we were walking down the street and im like fuck it. Everything or nothing. I just stopped, grabbed her arms, put them over my shoulder and went for it. Boom we made out. My 1st kiss and makeout ever. And it didnt stop there. We went to a nightclub where she initiated 2 makeouts with me!

I asked her after a while what she felt on the street in that moment. She explained that the whole night was weird because we were platonic friends for about 10 months or so and all of a sudden she had my hands over her, closer proximity and such. But at the same time she liked that was different. I acted more dominantly, especially when i grabbed her arms and put them over my shoulders. She had butterflies all over her at that point.

If you fuck it up in the beginning, you will have to fight hard for her to change her perception of you but if you change the way you act in front of her (friend —> potential partner) and show masculine and attractive behavior consistently, she will have no choice but to see you as your current self. So fuck it up —> disappear for a while —> show up with your new, improved self —> change her mind.

ElderberryEasy8866 · 2021-07-19T16:30:06+00:00

Maybe, maybe not. In this situation it honestly just depends on how much she likes you. If she likes you she won't care, if she is still on the edge about you she probably will lose interest.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-19T16:53:41+00:00

Some will, some won't.

Title	Do women bounce the second you show insecurity?
Author	Slow-Association6105
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	July 19, 2021 5:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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