Does anyone else sometimes feel bad about seduction in general?

PowerSeductionWar · 2014-07-27T01:24:29+00:00

I get this too.

This is how I rationalize my way out of it:

Sex is no big deal to them, and it isn't the first time they've been in this dilemma and it won't be the last.
Giving in and asking her out would hurt her more than what you are doing now. It will be mostly out of pity and the whole relationship will feel yucky, and leave a bad aftertaste.
They get sex without consequences. I don't judge. I don't tell. It's a win win. Girls wanna be fucked but have to hold back because of the social consequences. We take away those consequences. In a way, we are providing a service to these girls.

Something you could also do is to just let them know from the start that you aren't a relationship type of guy so that they can properly manage their expectations.

SirJohannvonRocktown · 2014-07-27T06:32:45+00:00

If there's something in that relationship that makes you feel like shit, then maybe its time to end that relationship.

Rationalizing it is a big mistake. Too often we guys try to use logic and reason to make decisions without ever consulting our feelings.

If the guilt is a constant problem for you, regardless of the woman, then you need to work on that with yourself. If it's just her, then why stick around anyway?

Throwaway323800 · 2014-07-27T08:39:23+00:00

Man if this is just hooking up, shit no. But it does get really dark when you get into serious seduction.. like you're in love and you really care about a person and you are so frightened that you have to psychologically break them to create a strong bond. That's probably something to feel bad about. Which is why long term seduction feels a bit worthless, and people may kill themselves like they did in the 19th.

Psych40 · 2014-07-27T13:42:59+00:00

http://www.buzzfeed.com/annanorth/study-pickup-artist-training-works-but-makes-you

Apparently pickup works (research has confirmed it) - but it makes you feel bad about yourself.

Tombstone31 · 2014-07-27T15:10:35+00:00

If you've clearly set out the ground rules and the fact that you're not interested in a relationship, and she accepts, then it's not using her. If you haven't, then it is.

HerpsDerp01 · 2014-07-27T15:30:40+00:00

Who knows when you're gonna find the one you want to be with, but that doesn't mean you have to feel bad about the journey in between. If there's not a strong enough connection you should let her know before there is too much one-sided emotional investment.

Title	Does anyone else sometimes feel bad about seduction in general?
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Date	July 27, 2014 12:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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