I feel like by the title it may feel like a no brainer.

But ive started to pick apart how i feel during different times and interactions i approach or flirt with women.

During the times when i KNOW i could be doing something better with my time and impulse kinda pulls me to walk around more than i should or keeping an eye out for any pretty girls, i notice my inner state is almost heightened in a not so good way and im not very present. Almost frantic.

However… during times when I’m genuinely comfortable out at a bar just standing and observing, enjoying my own company it feels so much better to strike up a conversation & get some good flirting going.

Not only at bars , if i genuinely need to grab something from a store or at a coffee shop, etc and i see a pretty girl? So much easier to go say hello and be in my skin.

I think when you go out thinking of women as a means to an end , that can take you out of the zone a little bit and not let you actually enjoy the process of getting good at game.

Wondering if any of you guys struggled with the same thing, ik a lot of inner game varies.