Does facebook affect your game?

pigggybabe · 2013-06-18T18:29:51+00:00

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khanline · 2013-06-18T18:34:22+00:00

i quit facebook for reasons like that.. among other equally stupid facebook problems. It's been almost 6 months. No facebook is making my life more interesting by getting out of the house and not wasting time and internal energy, making me happier, It's temporary of course, but in these months, i was hooking up with girls every week sometimes more. Before.... every few weeks...not consistently. I don't recommend quitting. it's my over compensating issue. But, what i am saying is, Facebook is not your life, don't treat it as such.

deathray_dj · 2013-06-18T19:53:41+00:00

Facebook is like Napoleon in Asia. A big, big sinkhole, and the beginning of your demise. I've killed attraction via text and fb so many times. It's OK to have a facebook, but don't use it for anything game related.

2013-06-18T22:01:19+00:00

Facebook is a good tool to use if you don't abuse it (get addicted to it). I'm guessing the girl in your story cut you off because you never made a move on her (something physical/sexual). I've been in this situation. She had very high IL early on because she was going crazy trying to figure out why you wouldn't make a move. Then she gave up.

SpaceToaster · 2013-06-19T06:03:34+00:00

Don't make yourself available on FB chat. You have a life. I've used FB chat just twice with women in the last year or so, just enough to set a meetup because I wasn't sure of their numbers(hot old friends now single).
Don't post often.
Keep most info private. No need to have anyone else know your relationship status, music, quotes, or any of that BS. Make your friend list private too while you're at it and turn off most things from the news feed.
Don't post personal shit, complain, whine, etc. Positive attractive posts only.
And PLEASE never ever EVER post song lyrics.

Irish_machiavelli · 2013-06-18T19:00:40+00:00

I've been contemplating deleting FB for quite some time. There's been many great posts about FB and what one of the mods calls "missed connections" meaning you can still keep in contact with missed targets from the past, and passively communicate value. Although I am souring on FB, I must defer to the mods on that one. I think FB is good for exactly that purpose, meaning "keeping the light on"

As an example, I moved from CO to WA a couple years ago. Now, when I go back to see family/friends, all I really have to do is post a "Hey, I'm coming back home for a few days, hit me up if you wanna chill."

I usually get a few messages that surprise me, from chicks that I just didn't quite get the chance to connect with the first time. A few successes have come from it, too. I really think that's FB's only useful purpose as relates to getting laid.

Heycallme · 2013-06-18T21:09:53+00:00

I deactivated my account two summers ago. I thought I we be missing out on so much but I was wrong. Not having a Facebook is awesome.

Styles_Stewart · 2013-06-18T23:05:00+00:00

So out of all that I have no idea how you determined that Facebook was affecting much of anything at all?

vonnegutcheck · 2013-06-19T07:05:33+00:00

Maybe you shouldn't think about Facebook (and everything) via the lens of Game. Pretty sure that would solve your problem right there.

Swag_Turtle · 2013-06-18T20:40:10+00:00

I never use facebook to talk to girls and don't text either.

The only time I will text is to make plans to see them in person.

Also if they don't respond multiple times, it's probably done. Don't seem desperate.

pigggybabe · 2013-06-18T21:32:28+00:00

I don't think anything is wrong with facebook, the problem here is you. you waited 2 months to meet up with a girl? I think you just got upset because she wasn't giving you anymore attention.

That said even though I will add some girls I'm into on facebook I'm trying to keep that number lower and lower, it's so annoying seeing someone you're no longer seeing or failed with time and time again. also if you don't have them on facebook you spend a lot less time obsessing over them, or at least there's less opportunity to anyway which I think is healthier

notausedrusgername · 2013-06-18T21:54:46+00:00

I deleted my facebook and twitter a while ago. Now I only use twitter to keep in touch with a some of my younger friends and kill down time at work. I don't use either for anything game related.

SellTheGreatLakes · 2013-06-19T04:51:55+00:00

I use it to set up dates. Its great to use to set up hangouts with people you might not necessarily be interested in sexually (males or females) that you just don't happen to have their number.

Like anything, though, if you let it become too important it will hurt you. Other than that, it can only be a tool for you.

recyclablebantha · 2013-06-19T14:04:41+00:00

Anyway. This girl I met, was super into me - blowing off my facebook / phone. And I got used to it - been 2 months now - and suddenly, she stopped and my inner game got ruined. I started thinking WTF happened, more..and more...and more... and more...

Suddenly, my neediness came out and I did something I shouldn't. I exposed my weakness.....

Facebook is not your problem, anymore than having a phone is. They're TOOLS.

The big hole I'm going to poke in your theory about FB is that there are a lot of people with FB accounts who have no neediness problems. I'm one of them. Granted, I scarcely use my account for more than an email inbox. But the point is that it can be used, within reason. Having one doesn't require you to spend all day on it, airing your insecurities as FB statuses. It doesn't require you to FB stalk some girls account instead of going outside and living your life.

Just like having a phone doesn't require you to sit and look at it all day, waiting for a reply to your text message.

Your problem is your neediness, which is a little more complicated to deal with then deleting a FB account. Plus, even if you delete your account, you won't somehow overcome your neediness as a result.

You're asking the wrong question here. It's not, "Does FB affect your game?" It's, "Does having bad inner game lead to obsessive and unhealthy habits like misusing FB and cellphones?"

Title	Does facebook affect your game?
Author	pigggybabe
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Comments	39
Date	June 18, 2013 6:24 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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