Double text to set up a date

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-05-25T12:02:05+00:00

Why is it that you guys always wait to ask her out until she begins to change her behaviour for the worst? Asking her out is not supposed to be a hail mary to salvage a situation with a woman that starts to go wrong. You are now not asking from desire, but from fear of loss. It ain't seduction anymore, it's damage control.

You were not leading. You were monitoring her responses, overanalyzing her signals, waiting for the perfect moment, which usually meant “when I feel safe enough to try”, and by then, the vibe is already dying.

And asking her out now, it starts feel to her like a bribe or an emotional plea: “Please like me again, here’s a date offer.” Asking her out should happen when the vibe is hot, when the emotional tension is alive, when there’s curiosity and anticipation, not when things start to go downhill or cool down like it's happening now.

Double texting to ask for a date or asking what's wrong come from a place of scarcity and neediness now under the current context. What you "previously discussed" with women, means nothing to them if the vibe has shifted. So don't say anything that sounds like: "hey! what about the date we talked about wanna do something? what's your schedule look like" or "hey why don't you reply? You still alive?" or anything close to that.

Instead you need to forget about the old vibe, the old conversation and create new intrigue to try to grab her attention.

"I just had a dangerously fun idea. And no, I’m not telling you yet."

First, reengage her curiosity, flirt, challenge her slightly, bring back the unpredictability. Then if (AND ONLY IF) the energy warms up again, you can pivot naturally into a plan. Like:

"I'm going to x cool event or activity on wedesnday at 18:00, you should join me, you won't be the same person after the experience"

THe idea is to invite her to something promising you will do with or without her. This is to subcommunicate that your life doesn't stop, even if she says no and that your life is not put on hold until she makes a decision and that your day is not gonna get ruined if she cancels last minute because you still going to the event. Either she joins or she misses out and it's only her that loses.

Don't ask her out in the wrong wway whch would be to say shit like: "you free tomorrow? No? ok and tuesday? no? and wednesday? ok then let me know when you are free so we can meet up"... This is terrible, needy as fuck and guarantees you will never get anything with women.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-05-25T16:44:19+00:00

You should have asked sooner. That's way too much banter through text before a meet. In the future, you could do a few quick exchanges and then call her to make it more personable and setup the details for a date. I prefer to always use a call for establishing the date as it's more confident and tends to lead to less flaking.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-05-25T11:57:29+00:00

What is your purpose to double text? I mean if she hasn’t read the first one, what makes you think that the 2nd would be read by her ASAP?

Or do you think the 2nd one will encourage her to read the first one like there’s some kind of mechanism in her cellphone that makes it keep ringing “you got more texts from him! More texts from him!”?

i wouldn’t double text. If she hasn’t read the first one she wouldn’t read the 2nd one. Most double texts are just showing the woman you start getting clingy or being nervous.
I wouldn’t wait for more than a week to set up a date the momentum is usually gone. Hot girls on dating apps are like hot cakes. There’s always a chance she’s now sleeping next to a guy after getting pounded by him last night. You’re probably not the only one in her roster. That guy could’ve been you.
At this point the ball is in her court. She will read your text whenever she has time. She will keep the momentum going if she’s still interested enough. But I wouldn’t keep my hope up.

Title	Double text to set up a date
Author	IWASJUMP
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	May 25, 2025 11:20 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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