Once you apply a facade you’ve already lost.

Either they like it and you feel disempowered to ever reveal your true self

Or they don’t and you’ve missed an opportunity to connect with someone by trying to be something you’re not.

Instead just be the best version of yourself. The most refined, educated, passionate, interesting, skilled version.

How to know if you’re being true to yourself?

If you tune in, your body will give you all the feedback you need.

Every time I lie or do something significantly incongruent with my inner values, attitudes etc I feel a constricting sensation in my solar plexus.

I’ve learned to stop ignoring that and start using it as a guide through the murky waters.

I encourage you guys to do the same.

You may not maximise your body count this way but then what kind of a goal is that anyway if you’re not being true to yourself?

Something to think about at least.