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Easiest ways to hook up in College?

Luthermartin75 · 2019-03-12T15:19:36+00:00

Clubs/Bars? Tinder? Social circles? Etc....

Luthermartin75

March 12, 2019

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Title	Easiest ways to hook up in College?
Author	Luthermartin75
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	March 12, 2019 3:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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[–]wolfbee16 9 points10 points11 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]itzReborn 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]wolfbee16 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Ok, so I’m an introvert as well. Most days I’d rather be in my room alone. I need to cool down and social interactions usually drain me. That being said I still get laid frequently. How do I do this? On the day I know I’m going out I’ll just talk to as many people as possible leading up to the evening. Before I head out I usually pregame a little bit and blast music, hype myself up. I like telling myself I’m the fucking man and shit like that. By the time I leave I’m already in a good state and talking is a little easier.

See I have to do those things before I have success. Unlike some brothers, I can’t just go out and be a social butterfly because that’s not who I am. Know who you are, and work on things that you can control like putting on that persona of confidence. I promise you, fucking up with confidence is far better than beta - half assing game

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[–]jellelliott 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Call me “too young and naive” but I live in rural Maine and basically the ONLY girls I meet that are within my age range are the girls in my school. High school. I’m a senior.

One of my female friends is actually an ex (she broke up with me), and I know pretty much all her friends and they def aren’t interested in relationships in general (they’re all man haters for the most part). We’re on good terms (sort of...?) but not THAT good of terms. Her friends are not my type anyway and it wouldn’t work out even if she got me together with one.

The other female friend is one that lives in another rural town and basically has no other real friends besides me. She has a boyfriend that is super jealous of me and therefore he doesn’t like me for that and he won’t help. She sees the “BF material within” me (me and her BF are super similar physically) and actually wonders why girls aren’t interested in me. I wonder the same, lol. If she had friends other than me, she’d probably talk highly of me and try to hook me up, unlike my ex.

Maine is the oldest state in the nation and therefore visiting locations doesn’t yield “fish” ever, and when there ARE, its whole groups of preppy girls who’d probably murder me with words and humiliation if I tried hitting on one of them.

I’ve tried school dances but it doesn’t work these days. Girls don’t go to dances if they don’t have a date/friends to go with. Last dance I purposely asked girls I knew were single to go and they said something along the lines of “not my thing, sorry!” Or “I can’t dance, I’m not going”. I went stag anyway to see if there were any I missed, Nope. Even the ugly ones huddled tightly in their friend groups to make approaching impossible.

Tried Tinder, but Maine is super notorious for having a terrible tinder scene. 90% of girls are on there don’t take it seriously and are there just to find Snapchat buddies or are shallow and can’t fucking carry a conversation no matter how easy I make it for them. So much for “let them talk about themselves” when they answer fucking every question with one or two words max and don’t contribute anything themselves. Even if I got one of them interested, I want a woman who I can have a decent conversation with, not some internet lurker with no life.

I tried expanding hobbies. I do music a ton and love it, but the girls in high school music are all taken or not interested in a relationship. And non-musician girls think music is some nerdy ass weird shit unless you look and act like Ed Sheeran or something. I have the most fun at tabletop game club, but alas that’s another nerd hobby. And let me tell you, the folks you meet there are two things: 1. Male 2. In the same relationshipless boat as me

Ive been working hard on my social life, been trying to act more confident and smile more (I’m socially awkward and inept, diagnosed as “socially stunted” when I was young kid but I got speech therapy at a young age to fix it, but it isn’t perfect, and I’m feeling the aftereffects of that impediment of my childhood I think) I mention everything in parentheses cause I think I creep out people because I eavesdrop without even knowing that I’m doing it, and I laugh at peoples conversations that don’t involve me, which was a primary reason I smiled a lot. I tried suppressing it for a while but it made my mood always negative and I hated that. ANYWAY, I mention all that cause I think it explains why I have approach anxiety a little bit, but the thing is that I text random girls out of the blue A LOT and I’ve noticed that most of them are disinterested as fuck all the time.

During the auditions for the district level honors festival, I met a girl who had an awesome personality and I hit on her and chatted with her for a while, got her info and went for the text the morning after. Same scenario as the other online girls even though she knew me a little. We had something in common, she knew me before hand so it wasn’t dead cold, yet she didn’t want to continue conversation with me ever. I waited to see if she’d ever text me first for any reason, nope. I wasn’t gonna double text her and make me seem desperate, that’s for sure. But she didn’t even friend zone me is the thing. I have THAT negative of a social aura naturally or something?

Forgot to mention that I have a handful of guy friends, but as you can guess from above, they ain’t what you call a ladies man for sure, they are as clueless as I am when it comes to attracting and dating.

I don’t really care what kind of relationship I get. I wouldn’t mind it if it was innocent with nothing but hugs and kisses, I wouldn’t care if she wanted it to be casual sex every once in a while, it really doesn’t matter to me so long as I can get some intimate female attention for once.

Anyway, sorry for an essay. Probably one of my off putting traits is that I type too much sometimes or take things too deep. (Not sexually unfortunately). The lonely female friend I have insists “I just haven’t found the right girl yet, it’ll happen eventually” but that’s what they’ve told me since I was like 15. I didn’t care up until now where I’m running out of time. Seriously if I don’t get a legit girlfriend in college, I know I’m fucked. I’m trying to load myself up with knowledge NOW and maybe even score before I shove off for college.

Am I screwed? What am I doing wrong?

[–]wolfbee16 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok so I will start by saying this. YOU. ARE. FINE. Absolutely nothing you said had any bad red flags or anything that would give you a negative vibe. You are overanalyzing every little thing you do so of course you'll see those flaws. I used to do the same thing and still catch myself doing it even now.

So I also had a speech impediment growing up. I had a really hard time pronouncing the "th" in "the" and a bunch of other things. I tend to speak really fast and slur my words. Now I try and slowwwwww downnnnnn. I try my hardest to speak slowly. I have gotten better, but I know exactly where you are coming from and believe me, I was picked on growing up a lot because of it.

Ok so now to analyzing what you said:

- "Tried Tinder, but Maine is super notorious for having a terrible tinder scene." I agree, tbh I only use tinder where I am at just so that I can boost my own ego matching with girls. I have ~ 500 matches and I can tell you right now that maybe 6-7 of them actually panned out so thats not really surprising. I agree 100% on having an actual convo with substance, but I wouldn't say all your talking points over Tinder, but rather set a date soon after getting her info.

- "And non-musician girls think music is some nerdy ass weird shit unless you look and act like Ed Sheeran or something. I have the most fun at tabletop game club, but alas that’s another nerd hobby." Ok well those girls are clearly delusional. They might not like traditional instrumental music, but I guarantee they probably keep up with the newest rap artists, so know them so it creates convo points. Also if you are good at an instrument then OWN IT! I will say that a lot here. Own whatever it is you do and the confident persona will follow suit. I agree thats a nerdy type club but who tf cares? Do what you enjoy man because life is too hard and short to care what others think. I wouldn't mention that to a girl tbh but maybe when she knows you better. I am a huge underground nerd. My favorite tv show is an anime ( Full Metal Alchemist Brotherhood) and a fantasy show (Game of Thrones). I won't mention the anime but usually GoT. My favorite movie(s) of all time is LotR. I have no shame when it comes to that and have happily told some babes that I sat down for 12 hours in a theater watching all 3 extended back-back-back. Theres somethings you shouldn't mention like tabletop game club/anime right away, but wait until they know you better because people tend to judge quickly.

- "Ive been working hard on my social life, been trying to act more confident and smile more (I’m socially awkward and inept, diagnosed as “socially stunted” when I was young kid but I got speech therapy at a young age to fix it." Im glad to hear you have been working on it! I promise you, I have had no greater satisfaction in life than when I looked back at myself 10 months ago and ponder how MUCH I have changed! It takes time man, and a LOT of practice. I always believed myself to be socially awk and weird, but looking back I see that it was primarily my tone of voice and my own negative view of myself that misguided me to believe I was awk. Some tips to improve your SOCIAL SKILLS right away would be: 1. Eye contact 2. Smile 3. Tone of Voice (Speak with confidence) 4. Body language (Stand with shoulders straight back, and put on that McGregor persona. I studied him a lot when I began and emulated a lot of his traits for myself like his walk.

- "I waited to see if she’d ever text me first for any reason, nope. I wasn’t gonna double text her and make me seem desperate, that’s for sure. But she didn’t even friend zone me is the thing. I have THAT negative of a social aura naturally or something?" Good on you. NEVER double text or you already have been friend zoned I can assure you. She friend zoned you bud, and it will continue to happen unless you make a conscious effort to change, but I assure you it is NOT as difficult as some make it seem. You have no negative aura. Don't tell yourself this. You have to realize that by telling yourself things like that will only make it harder to escape the thought. For now on wake up every day, play some dope music you like, look yourself DEAD in the eyes (I couldn't even look at myself in the eyes before) and tell yourself that you are your OWN person and that you are the fucking man.

Nothing you said was worrisome to me. It just sounds like you are too critical of yourself stemming from your speech issue to experiences you have had and you are a senior? Dude. You have SO much time. I WISH I started this journey back then.

Backstory: I put this here so that you can see that you and I are not that different when it comes to background. When I was in my senior year of HS I was socially awk asf. I had girls that I KNEW liked me and I never did shit because I didn't want to "be creepy" or weird. I then went on to go to a community college in a small town for another 2 years basically destroying my social skills one day at a time. Finally I moved to Uni last August and ever since then I have been on a journey to become the best possible man I can be, but I assure you I had numerous heart breaks, ghosting, being laughed at and even being called a catfish. My success is BUILT on a pile of failures, but every encounter taught me something new that I could learn from and tweak. I went from only ever being with one girl in HS to a body count of over 25 diff girls in a short time. I say this not to brag, but to show you that YOU CAN DO IT. If I told myself 10 months ago that I would be in this spot I would bet against that. I promise you that you can do it too.

- "Seriously if I don’t get a legit girlfriend in college, I know I’m fucked." Why say that? Is having a girlfriend what will make or break you as a person? Work on yourself first and don't try to find someone because the person that is right will come.

In conclusion, work on the small stuff first. Look in the mirror and smile a genuine smile so you can see how it looks. Work on your body language (go into detail in past post). Tone of voice, posture, eye contact, and MOST IMPORTANT!!!!!! ***LISTEN when people speak***, especiallllllyyyyy girls. Looking back I struggled to talk to women because I constantly was thinking of witty responses to say to impress her. Now I take a second or two formulate my response before replying. It shows that 1. I am listening to her, and believe me that girls will talk a lot, and 2. by having an adequate response it shows that I'm actually paying attention enough to contribute.

I have a LOT more tips that I have if you would like to hear them, but I tried to go around your situation! Always happy to help a brother out of the depths!

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[–]wolfbee16 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Yes! I can't believe I forgot about raves. My first rave is what made me realize that I shouldn't care about what people think of me while dancing and ever since then I dance like no one is watching! Its a wonderful environment where you meet some amazing people.

You are 100% correct too with his mindset going to a rave. Over my last few months of success Ive come to realize that my priorities were backwards!

Get laid
Make connections
Have fun

See thats where I fucked up. I would leave fun events mad that I didn't get laid and it sucked! Over these months I have now done a flip and finally my priorities are straight. Having fun shows people you can let loose, and that you have a fun positive vibe to be around. Girls CRAVE the positive emotions so they will come. Multiple times now I have had girls that I didn't know come and just be around me. Some made moves and would try to dance with me which was nice, but reaffirms the belief that simply having fun will harbor you more results than actually trying to.

Now this question is for you run_fast-eat_ass, I have now gotten to the point where I have lost over 5 fucks because I have had no desire to get with the girl or grind. 2 were avg and the other 3 were 8/10 up. I just love raves so much and go to vibe and dance like its my last day on earth. The heavy wub dub and bass plus the lights has my undivided attention. I guess what I'm getting at is I can't pinpoint why it is that my interest in girls is non-existent at these things.

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