Everything's great except sex

MattPruga · 2022-03-18T13:32:05+00:00

you don't bring up sex, you progressively enter that phase without mention

nikgos · 2022-03-18T12:12:06+00:00

Are you actually dating or are you hoping that you're gonna be dating? Maybe she just sees you as a friend that's why she feels awkward talking about sex with you. If you are in fact dating maybe she's got a sexual trauma which is something that is a lot more common than most people realize.

LongLiveMacdre · 2022-03-18T12:21:44+00:00

You gotta understand, all this time and memories and energy that you spend on her is like giving her sex already. She’s getting your attention, time, and validation which is all she needs. I’m not saying be an asshole or mean but I am saying stop making your time with her so common. You have to look at as simple as, you won’t give me sex, therefore I won’t give you time, energy, or conversation. Cause women will completely use a man for resources or validation if that means she doesn’t have to have sex. Just fall back and start dealing with other women, she will begin to wonder where you’ve been, and when she reaches out, invite her directly over to your place. No dates, coffee, any of that stuff. When you make your move and she still acting funny, charge her to the game. It’s too many women in the world to be playing these mixed signal games with her. Plus you don’t want to mess around and her say you forced her into sex or something, which a lot of them will do.

Subject-Craft5870 · 2022-03-18T12:09:05+00:00

Wait, are you actually dating this girl? Have you kissed her? Does she kiss you back? How long have you been dating? Or are you just friends? If a woman is attracted to you, most will have sex by the 3rd or 4th date. ———- Otherwise, Yes this chick sounds like she put you in friend zone and she doesn’t consider you a dating prospect, just a bff.

You should back waaaaaay off of your interactions with her, take things much much slower, cut out all the sex joke nonsense and assess where you really are with her?

letsgetrandy · 2022-03-18T12:02:46+00:00

Sounds like either you’re awkward and too direct about sex, or else you’re already in the friend zone. Probably both.

MudFlaky · 2022-03-18T15:13:34+00:00

No time for this nonsense a real relationship involves sex. Don't be rude about this and just ghost her but definitely spend your time more wisely. Don't let her turn you into a therapist.

gardensman561 · 2022-03-18T15:14:17+00:00

As others have said, I think she friend zoned you. This doesn't always have to be the end tho, and you don't have distance yourself nor become someone else. She likes your personality, that's why you're friends, but she friend zoned you because she doesn't find you attractive, or thinks she can do find someone more attractive. In this scenario, a little FOMO can go a long way. As an average guy, who always dated above his weight class, I figured out early that making them feel like they were in the friendzone usually turned it around.

Clarify that you are just friends - "I love hanging out with you, but I get the impression this is purely platonic for you. I'm ok with that, just need to know where I stand."
Stop flirting with her (at least a couple weeks)
Casually mention how beautiful other women are
Ask for advice. "This girl seems to be flirting with me, should I ask for her number? or was she just being nice"
Let your eyes wonder when you're out with her and check out other women.

At the end of the day, you can't force someone to want to have sex with you. They either do or they don't, BUT if there is any chance, this is the way.

Good Luck!

ss_213 · 2022-03-18T12:25:52+00:00

You dont talk about sex. And about her its either of 2 1. She is extremely naive. 2.You are being played.

And remember, women after a certain age are never naive.

Title	Everything's great except sex
Author	Cantaloupe_Available
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	March 18, 2022 11:58 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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