Ex is distant after hooking up

TaciturnComicUncle · 2019-07-29T15:13:44+00:00

She doesn't owe you anything mate. She's clearly trying to process this. Until then, go live your life, watch a movie, meet-up with friends, focus on something that's important and upcoming in your life and stop being hooked on to her. It comes off as too needy, like you're getting attached to the hip with her.

myenocin · 2019-07-29T15:03:32+00:00

Silence is it’s own answer, her own problems aren’t yours man!

FishscaleTiger · 2019-07-29T16:05:50+00:00

Hey buddy, been in the exact same spot.

Girls are emotional by nature and tend to act upon their impulses, your ex being around you is probably triggering her old habits and her emotions are all over the place, couple this with the alcohol and you have a confused and impulsive mess of an individual.

Of course none of this means she wants to get back to you, so don't pay too much attention to this situation, also consider not hanging out with her too much, because the bottom line is there were once feelings so, if not now, it will eventually cause you more distress and confusion.

Best of luck.

tejmin · 2019-07-29T16:34:06+00:00

Sounds like you want your ex, but your ex is trying to figure out how to move on.

Raspyshxt · 2019-07-29T17:32:46+00:00

You are not in a relationship anymore. She only wants your sexually energy.

This is what likely happened, you broke up, she had sex with someone else, it sucked, she thought I don’t want to get back with my ex but the sex was good.

She hit you up, yall fucked, she got what she wants, you don’t need to text her, or see how her day is, she’s probably having those convos with the next guy she wants to be in a relationship with.

Jkskradski · 2019-07-29T17:38:28+00:00

Or, you could call her out and tell her it's ok.

Something along the lines of: " Had fun, don't be embarrassed about what happened. It happened. If you want to be friends that's cool, but no more physical. If you want more you need to tell me face to face. If you want nothing it's cool too but I'd like to know. Don't ghost me because that's something a shitty person would do. I may still have feelings but we broke up for a reason, so I'm not quite sure about getting back together. "

Puts EVERYTHING in her court, gets what you want to say out (to her, not us) and then you move on until she decides or you've said your piece and you have closure.

Just expect the we're finished text. And anything else is gravy!

DrDoomSkywalker · 2019-07-29T19:14:39+00:00

Your mistake was replying back with "feeling good, you?". She is an ex. Ok you hooked up with her but why are you acting like as if you are back together? You should have just replied with a simple "good" and left it at that.

smoothmax · 2019-07-29T21:15:54+00:00

Put her on your list of less urgent prospects whom you text infrequently and casually, to stay in the back of her mind for whenever she has warm thoughts of you again.

Remember she doesn't owe you more sex or friendliness because of what happened.

Stick to your frame of abundance and having a cool life. Future communications should reflect that frame instead of showing confusion and disappointment that she went cold on you.

ChaotixEDM · 2019-07-29T21:23:45+00:00

Yeah she actually got back to me today. I was just thrown off why she took a day when she doesn’t normally but you guys are right. She was probably just processing things.

Montpellier33 · 2019-07-29T22:14:53+00:00

This is one of the reasons a lot of people say it's not a good idea to have sex with someone who is really drunk. It's not always about consent. Sometimes they'll just regret it later, even though you won't, and then you're in an awkward spot. Alcohol changes people's personalities and their desires.

bugxter · 2019-07-29T15:19:52+00:00

You're waaay too much invested in this girl, go do something instead of worrying about her.

v1ad13 · 2019-07-29T17:54:04+00:00

Pursue other women. It is always better to spend time creating new relationships than attempting to reconstruct a failed one. Additionally, women want a man who other women want. You need an abundance mentality.

evoporto · 2019-07-29T16:15:54+00:00

She may be embarrassed about getting drunk. I would give her one more try.

Title	Ex is distant after hooking up
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Date	July 29, 2019 2:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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