Focusing completely on the approval of woman can often make you needy. As you know you don’t want to come of as needy. You need to come of as a person who is appreciated by himself and puts his needs first. Ultimately you want to look and feel worthy. You want to be desired. Not the one who thinks girls approval is the reason for their existence.

You give more power to a woman that way if you let her determine if you are worthy or not. This could mess your confidence because you only want approval from woman.

Seeking approval and not getting it (which is likely) makes you rage towards girls . Which is not what you want . You don’t want to look at girl and already have predetermined thoughts about her without even talking to her. You don’t want to talk to someone and if they don’t approve of you , you get angry towards them.

1 ) If you did not care what people thought of you , how will you live your life differently?

My answer : I wouldn’t care to approach a cute girl because I feel the need to prove to myself worthy in talking to a girl. I would wear anything to the mall. Maybe flip flops and socks .

2) If I was not concerned with the approval, how would that affect my relationships with the opposite sex?

My answer: I wouldn’t care if a girl doesn’t complement me . I would care if a girl walks by and doesn’t give me attention. I would not care about my social media page and how many followers I have . I would not constantly talk to girls on social media and find out if they think I’m cute . I would walk freely and confidently in a bar or any space where I see attractive woman. I would not care about my tone of voice. I won’t care if a girl rejects me because that doesn’t define me as a person. I am not bound to any approval from woman . I don’t need it to survive.

So guys try this exercise and see if it makes you feel better. Reclaim your confidence don’t let a girls rejection define how you will live your life and your attitude towards girls. Guys need to remember this you are a prize. A girl needs a man. Remember that girls also want to be loved aswell. Not only you so stop acting like your life is over with them. Next time a girl rejects you let it roll like water on a ducks back . For some reason girls dig that even more. Sometimes will unreject you. Maybe because you know you are valuable. They would want you more. Good luck !