hey guys, I could use a little help/advice. although I can improve in pick-up and seduction [though, frankly, a lot of the literature is a catalyst and guide to be your own best self and develop your own game and be easy.], I've really been having issues on the f-close. and sexual confidence/assertiveness. it's becoming clear as day to me right now.

recently, I took a girl to bed that had initially rejected me. I for some reason didn't try having sex with her though she did teasingly say 'I'm not sleeping with you tonight' when she was next to me. we did get mostly naked and did some stuff. I feel like it stems from my being laid back and not sexually confident and aggressive. she had also recently broken up with her boyfriend and texted me a long text saying she didn't really mean to hook up. blows.

even more recently, I met this girl for the first time at a bar [online dating] and brought her back to my place. played some guitar and started hooking up with her. we get naked and have sex though no condoms. I didn't want to release inside so we kinda stopped after a bit, plus I was drunk. she did go down on me which was nice. when I said it was fun and we should hang again, she said she enjoyed talking to me but we're not the best match right now. whatevs, I didn't care about that one. did care about the above girl though.

most recently, hooked up with a really pretty mixed girl [also online]. met at a bar, within an hour back at my place to jam. we soon start hooking up. and I take off her clothes and she rips mine off. she suggests I get a condom. and I do. she starts riding and then b/c I haven't fapped in forever [thanks nofap], i realize I'm going to go so I push her aside and finger her. but then I go soft. and when I'm fidgeting around sideways and then in doggie, my condom slips off. there's a delay and she says can we turn the lights on and says we mighta jumped the gun on that one. I don't even know you that well or we should get to know each other.

I was definitely feeling awkward/insecure cause I felt like it was my fault but she was super chill and non-awkward. we jammed naked and made out like an hour later and slept. she kissed me in the morning which was surprising and talked about me coming to her place to chill/jam and to collab. so I don't know -- perhaps I didn't totally fuck it up. but she flaked tonight after showing lots of interest. I hope it's not a gone case. she's actually smart and super cute.

all in all, this may not be a seduction topic. but I think it is. sex is about confidence. and aggression. and being comfortable with yourself. what's the point of f-closing if you can't do it right? in reflection now, what's the best way to bring a girl back a 2nd time more than showing her a good time in the sack. your personality and vibe and confidence probably pale in comparison to that. and I'm fine with being insecure and inexperienced. I want to become confident about laying down a good f-close and just getting more sexually confident and aggressive [I think I'm fairly aggressive; just unfocused in my aggression].

tl;dr: pretty decent at talking to girls and bedding them but not f-closing right. not getting them to stick around for more hanging/effing.