met a gorgeous blonde law student, hooked up with her, texted/facetimed regularly, went and visited her, had an awesome time. 2 months later after texting and doing the whole long distance thing she comes to visit. we hang out all day and kiss and hold hands then she texts me "i dont feel the spark i dont see this progressing any more. im so sorry" bla bla bla i just said "wow ok. see ya" she hits me up late at the end of the night " im so sorry i will miss you" didnt respond to that.
kinda frustrated at myself for a lot of reasons. i knew the long distance thing and our personalities/ lifestyle differences would definitely ruin our relationship.
but i think my biggest issue is neediness. hadnt seen her in 2 months and i was all over her. she was all over me too, but a little less than me, told me it was slightly embarassing when i always tried to kiss her in public. last moment ill ever see her is her saying "give me a kiss" then me saying "in front of all these people?" "yes" and then a bunch of kisses, then a few hours later i get the "its over" text.
I am pretty sad, even though i knew it was going to end, and i knew i need to focus more on local girls etc. Havent liked a girl in a long time and i feel like my "handsiness" turned her off to the point where she lost attraction. I dont know.
Im super motivated and have been, working out a lot, and attracting girls, but struggle with severe anxiety and am just starting to redevelop a social life after moving. Anyone with some thoughts? I could use them, since i feel like shit.
edit- thanks for responses. im going from feeling really positive to really shitty. easy to overanalyze and blame myself for little things but until im ready to get a girl like that without putting them on a pedestal, i wont be able to keep em. heres to getting back out there and having some fun with new girls.
edit 2- went out last night, talked to a few girls, got some numbers of local girls that are into my lifestyle (music/ partying) and felt that cockiness again that i wasnt showing when i was with the original girl. came home drunk and got upset again but overall im powering through and going after other girls, accepting that this other broad is a lost cause and moving on.
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