Field report...very long despite being a short night. Don't read it if you don't like reading long field reports.

Just went out by myself. I am working 7 days a week so I didn't want to make this a marathon session, however I told myself I would go out 3 times a week and Thursday needs to be one of those nights. Furthermore, if I bitched out and ended up not going tonight then I'm worried it would become a pattern.

That said, I told myself that I would only go for 30 minutes. I remember watching pickup videos and someone saying, "Just go out for 30 minutes. Anyone can do 30 minutes." that stuck with me and tonight I made it happen.

The apartment I'm staying in is about 30 minutes away from the part of town where all the clubs are. Made the drive down there and felt a little nervous. But other than that my energy was good.

Made some small talk in the line with a few guys, telling them how much better going out was while sober, just to loosen up. They didn't seem too enthusiastic about that.

As soon as I got into the club I stopped this one girl who was walking in my direction. I used my standard opener, "Hey I just wanted to introduce myself to you." She blew right open and was like HI, MY NAME IS BLAH BLAH. She was wearing a cat pendant and I told her it looked cool. She asked me if I was a cat or dog person, I told her I liked both. She did too. More small talk..

At one point we shook hands after an official introduction. I pulled her in close and continued the conversation talking into her ear (the club was loud). We kept holding each other's hands in a weird handshake for a solid minute, talking into each other's ears. I was locked in against hte wall and she was leaning into me, my knee was in between her legs. I took this to be a good sign.

I asked her who she came there with and she said by herself. I thought htat was cool so I said, "Wow, that's pretty cool. If you keep that up I might make you my best friend."

She goes, "really?" Then I said, "Yeah but you have to pass the best friends test first." okay what is it.. "Do you cook?" yes OH MY GOD I LOVE COOKING BLAH BLAH "okay great what do you like to cook" BLAH BLAH BLAH... "okay final question - and this is a serious one - on a scale of 1-10, how good of a kisser are you?" she thought about it for a second... 10

I go.. "really? let's see." boom makeout. she actually was a pretty good kisser. My hand gravitated to her ass which was strangely firm. I asked her how she got it so firm and she goes, "um hello, I'm latina!"

Blah blah blah, got the insta and parted ways.

Despite that early success in the night I was still nervous. Getting a makeout doesn't really mean shit.. yes it's cool, but it doesn't really mean anything. I feel like you could compare it to people who think getting rich will make them happy.. and then when they get rich they realize they're still miserable. I'm not rich so I have no idea but that's what I hear.

Anyway I moved around the club some more and opened a few more girls but nothing really stuck. Ran into a guy that I had seen the week before and next to him were 4 very cute girls all huddled together. I wanted to say something to them but they were literally face to face, shutting out everyone. While I talked to the guy they paired off but even the two pairs were all over each other.

I mentally said "fuck it" and softly grabbed the upper arm of one of the girls. Not hard or anything, just enough to let her know that I was making my presence known. Used my standard opener, "Hi there. I just wanted to introduce myself to you."

She seemed into it but I saw her friend wrinkle her nose like ew who is this guy. I turned to her and said, "I'll introduce myself to you too" and shook her hand. she goes, "HI IM MANDY.." or something.

I couldn't think of anything to say so I just said, "i came over here because you guys had such good energy. I want to steal some of your energy." then they made these arm movements as if they were giving me energy, so I made arm movements like I was receiving their energy. Mandy turned away to talk to her other friends and left me "alone" with the first girl I said hi to. I had no idea what to say and I think I put my foot in my mouth saying something retarded. a minute or so later i ended up telling her to have a good night and ejecting, although now that I think about it she was smiling and seemed to enjoy talking to me. I'm thinking premature

Wandered around a bit more and found a girl who was dressed like a hardcore raver. She had these 5 inch platform boots on, crazy makeup and other raver accessories. I told her that I have those same boots in green and was going to wear them tonight but I'm glad I didn't, because wouldn't that be embarrassing. She goes, "I have them in orange - you can borrow them next time!"

I drew a blank on a witty response to that and got my tongue twisted. She started dancing and I left. Now that I think about it, I probably could have recovered that one too. Not sure why I leave these sets so early.

Last set of the night I approached these two girls who were talking to each other. One fo them was wearing cat ears, so I reached up and squeezed them. They looked at me like WTF and I said, "I just wanted to see if they were real." The girl wearing them goes, "OF COURSE THEY'RE REAL" i was like, oh really? what are you, like a cat or something? she goes, "uh i'm a cat, hello."

She had something painted next to her eye that I coudln't quite make out so I asked her what it was. She goes, "it's a knife bitch, better watch out because I'LL CUT YOU" I was like damn.. okay. I gave her friend a look like damn this bitch is crazy.

I noticed her friend had these weird half gloves on... they were black gloves that only covered half of her palm and half of her fingers. "Those are cool, I wish I could wear them." they told me I could but I was like, "nah, I'm a guy.. I can't wear those." no no no you should be true to yourself, if you want to wear them then wear them. "okay fine I'll go buy some right now!" blah blah blah for a few more minutes and then I left again.

again.. probably could have stayed in this set as well but i keep drawing a blank after the opener. Maybe i should make a list of premise-y things to say instead of just trying to wing it on the fly.

I danced a bit here and there in between sets and before I knew it my 30 minutes was up.

What I learned:

Even if you don't have a goal when you go out, you have a goal. I realized that tonight my goal was to go out for 30 minutes despite ging out a lone and not really wanting to go out. I guess I achieved that goal. But next time I want to set a goal that is skill-specific, i.e. approach the "hard" sets or sets that contain the hottest girls. Or move a girl to a different part of the club. Something like that would help me stay focused and prevent me from ejecting so soon.

Also I think that I eject from sets wayyyyyy too early unless they blow open. I need to figure out some way to stay in the set longer. I think the reason is that a lot of the time the girls I'm talking to aren't the most attractive ones, so I subconcsciously think to myself that I don't really want to invest any time in gaming them because there are hotter girls at the club. Still if the goal is to get better then I might as well practice on them.

Finally, the "best friend test" kiss close is pretty reliable for me, it's now the 3rd time I've done it. Seems to be a solid way to get a makeout with a girl who is into you.

I'm also drawing a blank after the opener. I think this has to do with not knowing what I want from these interactions, which comes from not having a goal for the night. For example if my goal for the night is to open a set and move the girl to another location in the club, then I know that goign into the set. That means I have to do all the necessary steps leading up to that, which means I can't eject so soon and will push through any awkwardness in the conversation.

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