What’s the single most powerful concept for attracting women?

Offering value?

Holding strong eye contact?

Using momentum?

It’s none of the above.. And while those strategies are all important, the one thing that is more important than anything else is something rather unusual: embrace the fact that attracting women is messy and you will never be perfect.

Truth is, sometimes a girl will agree to go on a date with you even if your eye contact was weak, your body language was nervous, and you couldn’t think of anything interesting to say.

And sometimes, a girl will reject you even though everything you did and said was incredibly charming and attractive.

On average, you will get better results the more you adhere to the fundamentals you’ve learned from this community, but it is not black and white: mediocre game is oftentimes good enough.

Luck plays a key role in pickup: if you approach a woman who recently got broken up with and is looking for a rebound or if you approach a girl who just happens to be horny, you might not have to do much at all to take her home.

This is important to understand because one of the greatest barriers to our success is our expectation of what it takes to get the result we want.

When we learn techniques for attracting women, it’s easy to take the belief that we have to do those techniques correctly to be good enough - holding strong eye contact becomes a requirement to get the girl, having a masculine vocal tonality becomes a requirement to get the girl, etc.

You don’t have to do all the things you've learned about pickup correctly to attract women.

You can do a ton of things very poorly and still get good results.

Yes, learning to offer value, get women to invest, having strong intent (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nK2tYyla5Is&feature=youtu.be), etc. will all increase the likelihood that any given woman will find you attractive, but all you absolutely must to do to get dates is to take action and lead.

It’s easy to be overwhelmed by all the concept and strategies you’ve learned, but understand that you don’t need to do everything right, you just need to do a few things right.

Think of game like poker: sometimes you will get a bad hand and you cannot win no matter how well you play.

Other times, you will get such a good hand that victory is practically guaranteed.

Similarly, some of the women you approach will reject you no matter what you do or say, yet other women will find you attractive even if you make a litany of mistakes.

Yes, always strive to improve because doing so will change the results you get over time, but understand that you can stumble into successes today because some women will like the traits that other women won’t find attractive.

If you’re nervous, some girls will like that because it shows you’re not a player. Other girls prefer men who don’t seem dominant.

On average, far more women will find you attractive if you come across as confident, dominant, etc. But some women will find whatever so-called weaknesses you have now attractive.

Focus on progress, not perfection.

You don’t need to wait until you’ve mastered every aspect of game to get amazing results. We are all imperfect and there is charm in your imperfections, it makes you human.

I was with one of my friends on our college campus and approached a girl who he considered to be his dream girl. He was nervous, he couldn’t think of much to say, and he ran away immediately after getting her number.

But she ended dating him, and she told us that she liked that he was nervous, that’s what charmed her.

Consider that even the best basketball players miss half of their shots.

And even the worst basketball players make some of their shots.

The same applies here, as long as you’re genuinely trying by approaching women and asking them on dates, some of those attempts will lead to actual dates.

Now, as your skillset improves, you will gain much more control of your results, but even if it’s through sheer luck at first, some women will like you.

Embrace that you are imperfect and that many of your approaches will be somewhat awkward and you will get rejected repeatedly.

The alternative is to wait because you are not perfect, but you’ll be waiting indefinitely.

You are good enough now to attract beautiful women. You should strive to improve, but the only way to do that is through accepting your flaws and trying anyway.

If you found this article useful, check out my YouTube channel: (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4kTcVi-b_9qQnMCRG9WggA)

There, I post infield footage where you can actually watch me approach women and break down the interactions.