Forgot "the zone" and AA is back in me... let's make list on breaking it.

DikembeNONONO · 2014-05-11T22:35:31+00:00

Go up to her w the mentality of "I wonder what she's like". This will help because you have to see if she's right for you, not if you're right for her.

Also, when you have self limiting beliefs and thoughts in your head just realize they are merely WORDS that are in your mind. When you fuse w the words in your mind you believe them. You have to diffuse these self limiting beliefs like "Oh she would never like me." "Oh she has a boyfriend". You can do this by quietly saying to yourself "I notice I'm having the thought that.. she would never like me". When you say this to yourself you can spatially back yourself away from the WORDS and realize they are just WORDS. They hold no meaning. Literally try it when you have something about you that you don't know is true or not. Close your eyes and say "I notice I'm having the thought that.." and whatever the thought is. It helps me distance myself from the words.

Also don't worrry about the outcome. I feel like you're worried about if the interaction will be good or bad, just go in not expecting anything and the worst thing that can happen is she'll politely decline you. Don't view rejection as a personal truth of failure. View it in the grand scheme of things where you are basically on a treasure hunt and things should become more fun. There are SO many girls out there, if one doesn't work out it just helps you. Imagine if every girl you ever approached was down and wanted to date. This helps filter out the ones that aren't meant to be for you. Hope this helped.

ithearrow · 2014-05-12T03:18:35+00:00

Acknowledge your problem, learn to find the root cause behind you comparing yourself to everyone. I used to have this problem, and it was fixed by me genuienly making an effort to improve my life

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-05-12T15:17:36+00:00

something that has stuck with me ever since I started ( now that I don't suffer from AA anymore I use it to get in state ) is going up to a girl with a horrendous , sure-to-fail opener or with the definite intention to get shot down . if it backfires and you seem to get a hook, then you can either roll with it or push your luck. afterwards have a good hearty laugh at yourself and move on. so much fun

dooyoufondue · 2014-05-12T17:48:38+00:00

You've got the first step down: Go out!

What I personally do when I see an attractive woman is first and foremost, what is it about her that makes her attractive? Sometimes it's obvious but sometimes I notice that I really like the cut of her dress, the way she carries herself, her hair, etc. Once you start dissecting what you really like about a particular woman, you are able to be more genuine in your approach. Once you have found a reason to talk to her, go for it. Only a rare breed of woman will snub you for approaching them.

Title	Forgot "the zone" and AA is back in me... let's make list on breaking it.
Author	chillmonkey88
Upvotes	10
Comments	5
Date	May 11, 2014 10:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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