Found a sticking point with myself, inability to display value.

Pit_Sweat · 2014-11-18T20:22:57+00:00

It's not displaying value, it's giving value. Sure, being a good photographer makes you an interesting person but most girls will take it or leave it, especially if photography doesn't enhance their life. In order to be someone of high value, you have to give someone what it is that they value. Does that make sense?

That being said, it can be different for each person. Being a good listener, as you said, can be very helpful but only when someone needs a good listener in their lives (most people do). Someone who has no problems and/or has tons of supportive friends they talk to regularly will not really give a shit if you're a good listener.

So really get to know your target and find out what she (or he) wants, and give that to them. That's how you become valued.

8sweettooth8 · 2014-11-19T15:42:21+00:00

Read "Models" by Mark Manson. Your answer is exactly in chapter 1, section 'Attempts by the Pick Up Artists'.

2014-11-19T01:52:50+00:00

Develop a purpose in life, read books on how to get there.

baguette180 · 2014-11-18T20:27:38+00:00

I just have a good understanding of theory so take this with a grain do sault:

"But I feel like that is not enough" <------ that's your problem. You are puting the nines and tens on a peristyle and sub communicating lower value. Don't like worry.

You can get into state. Or do state training: you self amuse and do everything cuz it is fun. And also do that doing the day and then you will become gragarios and more funny over time (check out the blue prent decoded it's dope. It takes a wile to give you potent advice cuz he has to set the ground work first. (Which I found intresting) he explains how te mind works and it is realy good) if you have a higher state then a girl (in a fun environment) you pretty mouth have more value since she wants fun and good emotions. You have the comedy she wants.

When you actualy go out I don't think it is Good the think in terms of value, I think it dehumanizes interactions a little bit and you wanna have a very human experence (Maybe I'm wrong, or it could vary from person to person)

jeanisss · 2014-11-19T03:22:40+00:00

Here's my guide to displaying value.

Value is like the fish in the water, the more you seek it, the less you have. If you try to catch a fish in the water if brute force, by seeking value by contesting it, you will never be able to gain it. Rather, if you let the current flow, and let people around you find out that you are worth value, then that is the greatest form of value you can have.

That is the reason why you cannot get those 8's 9's 10's.

I think that what you lack is not that you're not trying hard enough. I think it's that you're trying too hard.

Here's a good video that explains metaphorically what I am talking about:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rXrUzfVBTk

Title	Found a sticking point with myself, inability to display value.
Author	balkanthndr
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	November 18, 2014 8:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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